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I thought either a wedding planner or marriage councellor, someone who's supposed to help you in your relationship. And obviously family members.

Feel free to mention personal experiences.

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[–] tias@discuss.tchncs.de 88 points 2 years ago (3 children)

My neighbor cheated with his partner's sister, and now lives with the sister. The most aggravating part of it is that he has kids with both. Every other week his ex has to come by to drop off her kids at her sister's house since they share custody. From the kids perspective, their sibling is also their cousin.

[–] Krachsterben@feddit.de 14 points 2 years ago

Wow, so the kids are half siblings and cousins at the same time. Food for thought

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[–] mateomaui@reddthat.com 56 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] mateomaui@reddthat.com 12 points 2 years ago

We aim to please.

[–] foggy@lemmy.world 43 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Idk probably her mom. They're super close, and her mom is in the later stages of life.

That'd fuck things up real bad.

[–] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 2 years ago (1 children)

It was her last wish on her deathbed

[–] AdamEatsAss@lemmy.world 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

It would have been rude not to

[–] LEDZeppelin@lemmy.world 13 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Help me step son in law, I’m stuck on my way to the lord

[–] bobs_monkey@lemm.ee 10 points 2 years ago

Hump me across the finish line

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[–] coaxil@lemm.ee 39 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Woody Allen? Are you on Lemmy now?

[–] MidwayTheMagnificent@wayfarershaven.eu 12 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That’s pretty bad, perhaps outshined only by your and your partner’s child

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[–] Narrrz@kbin.social 7 points 2 years ago

satan? when did you join the fediverse?

[–] Resistentialism@feddit.uk 33 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Hitler, probably. I feel like that might be quite bad.

[–] MidwayTheMagnificent@wayfarershaven.eu 12 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I always thought that people who liked, um… “cold” partners preferred them fresh or nearly so.

Is there anything left of him except bones?

Ok that’s enough internet for me…

[–] GARlactic@lemm.ee 7 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I know you're joking, but I don't think there's even bones. The KGB destroyed his remains.

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[–] Hyzerflip@lemmy.world 33 points 2 years ago (3 children)

The one that we made a sexy time video years ago that I have since forgotten that it was still in on my computer, that she found and it caused a big argument.

[–] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Didn't have to personalise your reply 😭

[–] Hyzerflip@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago

You said feel free to mention personal experiences…you didn’t say they had to be MY personal experiences.

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[–] Unsustainable@lemmy.today 30 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] Especially_the_lies@startrek.website 19 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Wow. A 30 year old AIDS joke? On my Lemmy?

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[–] AlligatorBlizzard@sh.itjust.works 27 points 2 years ago (4 children)

When both people in a relationship are in the leadership of an organization, it's a serious problem when one of them cheats with someone else also in the leadership of that organization. A friend of mine was part of an organization where this happened, the drama was terrible.

[–] massive_bereavement@kbin.social 11 points 2 years ago

Was your friend inside an HBO show?

[–] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Oh my god how can you even stay there after that

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[–] GreatWhiteNope@hexbear.net 21 points 2 years ago (6 children)

My husband’s ex-wife cheated on him with his brother and best friend. It would be completely terrible to cheat with those people even without that history, but it makes it 10x worse.

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[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 15 points 2 years ago
[–] zdrvr@lemm.ee 13 points 2 years ago (9 children)
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[–] Squirrel@thelemmy.club 12 points 2 years ago

Her sister. They're close, and it would be devastating to her.

[–] keepcarrot@hexbear.net 11 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Someone else that they trust a lot that they introduced you to to help you out of a jam.

I've seen the best friends one a couple of times and it completely destroys the dynamic obviously. One guy isolated himself and spent a year drunk and on /pol/ and the first conversation I had with him after that was about how the holocaust didn't happen. Idek if cheating happened in that instance or if she just lined up his best friend really quickly.

Everyone new I meet seems to be polyamorous now but I just hear about less relationship drama generally.

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[–] Narrrz@kbin.social 9 points 2 years ago (3 children)

I'm torn between partner's family member, partner's best friend, & partner's ex.

[–] Wookie@artemis.camp 6 points 2 years ago (1 children)
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[–] OccamsTeapot@lemmy.world 9 points 2 years ago

Piers Morgan. Sucks to be cheated on, but imagine he was the one your partner preferred. That shit would stay with you for life.

[–] makingStuffForFun@lemmy.ml 8 points 2 years ago

Their sibling, or parent.

[–] Carighan@lemmy.world 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Their ex after me, I would suppose. That'd sting.

[–] itsyourmom@artemis.camp 8 points 2 years ago

The answer is…. D) all of the above/ and below!

[–] YoBuckStopsHere@lemmy.world 7 points 2 years ago (2 children)
[–] spauldo@lemmy.ml 18 points 2 years ago

Time to update Wikipedia's List of Sexually Active Popes.

If there was ever an article that deserved This list is incomplete, you can help by expanding it, it's this one.

[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 6 points 2 years ago

lol I think my spouse would be more confused than upset

[–] Bizarroland@kbin.social 7 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Anyone, but also 2x anyone with an incurable std.

[–] lockewiggins@lazysoci.al 6 points 2 years ago

I also choose this guys wife

[–] beteljuice@lemmy.ml 7 points 2 years ago

Kim Dot Com

[–] pH3ra@lemmy.ml 6 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

There's only one right answer to this question and it's the one person that will make him/her feel stupid for trusting you, AKA "the friend you told them not to worry about"

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