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[–] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 49 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Fighting a gorilla doesn't require bravery. It requires unabated stupidity.

[–] PugJesus@lemmy.world 35 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I'd fight any gorilla dumb enough to say that to my face!

[–] PetteriSkaffari@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago

These fingernails really make me uncomfortable.

[–] HelixDab2@lemm.ee 11 points 1 week ago

I'm not sure how many men are able to realize when something they're saying, or something a friend is saying, is making women uncomfortable. I think that takes a certain level of self-awareness that a lot of men lack.

I know that I do. But I'm also autistic, so reading social cues isn't my strong suite.

[–] Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Uh oh, you posted feminist leaning content on Lemmy. Better brace yourself for a sea of dudes telling you that you are wrong!

[–] CommanderCloon@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That's not really my experience with lemmy, it seems we're all leftists (I've seen some non leftists, rarely) albeit a very diverse blend

[–] PugJesus@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

There were a lot of men with hurt feelings during the "Would you rather be with a man or a bear alone in the woods?" hypothetical fad.

[–] CommanderCloon@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 week ago

I must say that I did not pay attention to that particular conversation here, so I might have missed some of it. Also I'm mostly on very much leftist instances & anti-feminist sentiment would not be tolerated

[–] lobut@lemmy.ca 9 points 1 week ago

I remember having that moment! Not with the gorilla but my friend treated women poorly, nothing physically abusive or nothing but he cheated on many of them.

I then told my friend, "yeah, but he's still a good guy". I mean, he was to me ... and if you're not in a relationship with him he's fun? :P

I kinda stopped staying friends with these guys. They're toxic to be around.

I even had a friend that told me he was abusive to his girlfriends and I'm like, dude I really think you wanna be the man your daugthers look up to. But he kept it going and I couldn't chill with him any more.

[–] brown567@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 week ago

I did that once! It was scary, and I lost a "friend", but it was worth it

That being said, I'd never even try to fight a gorilla. If they picked a fight, I'd just resign myself to my fate

[–] Mac@mander.xyz 8 points 1 week ago

Either i don't have any friends like that or they know not to expose that side to me.

[–] FellowHuman@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'd rather die from gorila slap, than confront anyone about anything.

[–] PugJesus@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I've conditionally gamed my anxiety by making myself anxious about staying silent in certain situations.

It works, for the small, small price of greatly increased social stress!

[–] jimjam5@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

I haven’t had a friend tell me this, but I have definitely had those “d’oh!!” moments of sudden realization like clarity Clarence, where I think back to things I’ve said or done and how they were likely construed as by the other party and all I can feel is embarrassment. But it has helped me catch myself whenever I’m about to repeat these kinds of mistakes.

[–] ramenshaman@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

Hey I used to have one of those friends

[–] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Can 100 PugJesus tell a friend to stop making women uncomfortable?

[–] PugJesus@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Yes. Though I'm not friends with anyone who would intentionally make women uncomfortable.

[–] Lucky_777@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

Throw a banana, then hop on his head 3 times. Boom done.

Treating a woman like shit? The ultimate "Beta" move.