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I'm Jewish and married someone catholic? Although he's not even a Christmas and Easter catholic anymore. We do the Jewish holidays because my mother invites us. I do Christmas for him in the sense I already do all the cooking and ask what he wants for the holiday (normally ravioli)

Y'all are dating?

Kinda depends on how exactly you think of culture.

Like, I married a damn Yankee, and that's a different culture in some ways, despite there being more similarities as americans.

With that in mind, yeah, plenty.

Over the years, I was never what you might call hidebound in that regard. I didn't, and wouldn't have, dated anyone long term that was deeply religious or hyper political, but that would apply to any religion or political bent. Beyond that, I was down for anything.

"Race" was never a barrier. Well, beyond there being limited ranges in numbers in any place I've lived. Not a ton of Native Americans in my town, or the city I lived in, as an example, so no opportunity to meet anyone with that label in a dating situation.

Neither was nationality. I dated Mexican women, a Japanese lady, a very sweet Filipina, some ladies from various islands; St Croix, Jamaica, and Barbados in particular. Never long term dated any European folks at all, just hookups (before I got tired of hookups and stopped doing them: and short term dating.

Short term, I went out with two Korean ladies, and sorta kinda want out with a Thai girl.

Most of that though, we're talking a handful of dates, figuring out it wasn't working out, and moving on.

There were multiple African women, as well as plenty of African-American.

I just never saw culture, race, or nationality as a barrier. That kind of thing, in my mind, is no more or less a barrier than someone's musical taste. You learn about people, and if there's comparability, you keep seeing each other.

Now, "class", as in socio-economic strata, I wasn't prone to dating rich women. It wasn't a rejection on that basis, more a numbers thing. Higher income brackets have less people in them, and my interactions with those strata tended to be professional, and it was rare that I'd engage in anything romantic with my patients' family members. So it wasn't a hard no.

The few rich/wealthy women I went out with, there was less common ground than with women from other countries though. Not entirely, but enough to notice.

The ones that weren't rich, but had good income, I couldn't really see any difference tbh. Not just due to them having great paying jobs only.

But the truth is that while I dated plenty, I was also not the sort to drag out a relationship that wasn't going to work. So most of the women I was with were only for a few months. That's all it takes to figure out long term compatibility issues usually. You know, the dealbreaker topics like child rearing, life goals, that kind of thing where if you aren't on the same page, it's going to be a lasting problem rather than an interesting difference to talk about.

Hell! I even "dated" a dude for a few dates. It was this whole thing where he absolutely believed that if you didn't at least try to date someone outside of what you think your orientation is, you don't really know. I didn't believe it, but was willing to at least be open to the idea. Did not work at all. Certainly not with him, he was a jerk (which was obvious from the way he expressed the idea). But there was zero attraction at all on my end, and unfortunately I've never been attracted to men at all. Unfortunately because I have had some objectively great guys attracted to me.

Without that spark of attraction involved, I can't even call those dates dates in the usual usage. It was just two guys doing things together. Not the same thing imo.

I married 'up' economically, after a short 25-year courtship. She likes my stories of being "po' " as to her middle class it seems a little far-fetched. Her family had good, union jobs, and her parents retired in good health.

She's also amazing, well-adjusted and kind. She lived a life of strong social connection and stability and it really shows. She's the house cat and I'm the barn cat.

In addition to her parents, her siblings are also great people. They've gone into accounting, teaching, fire-fighting and law enforcement, and they volunteer at animal rescues and fund-raising schemes. Truly wonderful folks.

In so many ways, I lucked out.

I'm assuming OP and I do not come from the same nation. I can only speak for my region of the US (northwest), where this is not uncommon.

Pretty much always

yeah I have dated someone in a higher socio-economic class than me

and someone of a different race but of essentially the same culture not sure if that counts

how come?

Depends on what you consider culture. I presume class is economic. I'd say yes for both, but I'm not sure how many times I've dated someone "outside of my culture". You might as well argue and say never or always

I was in a long-term relationship with a Taiwanese woman, and she kept me a secret from her family for years. Even when we lived together, the story was that we we just sharing an apartment. I assumed that they didn't want her dating a white guy, but later she was showing me photos of a family gathering where there were several white men present so I'm not sure what the real issue was. Maybe her family was just eccentric? She was definitely eccentric herself in other ways, so it would make sense.

Other than that I've dated American women which I suppose is technically a different culture since I'm not from the USA myself, but I came to the USA as a young child. I did go on a few dates with a woman from my birth country who came to the USA as an adult and that was awkward because of how much harder than mine her own life had been. She wasn't hostile about it but I still felt like a jerk any time I mentioned anything that had ever been difficult for me.

Does it count if my culture is Kiwi and I'm the proud GF of a guy who is Malagasy?