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[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 38 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I am reaching the age where I don't know what weird slang and acronyms mean anymore. Later childish losers, hello mature winners.

[–] programmer_belch@lemmy.dbzer0.com 34 points 3 months ago (1 children)

The meme is talking about asmr audios, in this case a f4tf (female performer for trans female listener). These audios usually show a scene where the performer calls the listener a "good girl". The meme shows the awkwardness of the OP when the performer calls her a good girl.

[–] Master@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 months ago

Lowk is low key

[–] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S 20 points 3 months ago
[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

no wayy :o thats me from about four years agoooo!!!

yea no, when i heard that - i always went "noooohooo-" out loud (but in quiet) cuz i cant stand such untruths bein shared into the world.... even uf im the only one to hear it-

anyway - audios can be fun... they temd to kinda not warn u bout the content thoooo ----- its an explorative thing.. kinda magic, but sometimes u get lozd scary sounds outta nowhere and u immediately close the vid cuz u accidentally found urself in an adult vid u didnt wana be in----- scary ;(((

[–] mauubunzie_Kittyroll69420@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)
[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 months ago (3 children)

nono its not..,. or rather - i disagree

[–] F04118F@feddit.nl 7 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Kinda shocked ~~Smorty~~ Maria vehemently denies being a good girl.

Are you baiting us, sweetie?

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

i..... iduno water u talkin about.,, what would i be baiting for?

yea nu i.... dont like bein called that... or rather - mayb i do like it..... but im not ready for ut yet.... it feels too incorrect to me still, like peeps sayin "u got such nice blue hair" but i got red hair - or thats what hair i see at least...,........ hold on...... oh!!! i got one!!!

🎣

a bass!

anywayanyway- when u said sweetie,,...,,.... i really liked thattttt vuz i imagined u kinda - kinda like leaning in with ur hands on ur knees kinda looking downwards upon me,,. yesyes that sounds more fun and specific.... while remaining generic enough but in a good way- where its comfy ~ ~ ~

u did it! u found a glorious mew word i like <3 <3

i will use it now on others in hope they feel similar to how i do now >v< (cuz- cuz i feel kinda warm and... entertained, but also willing to give.... while also not being too excited... thats good! i wanna have others also feel that ~ ~)

thank u <3

oh yea, also, my name is maria now, i changed it a buncha months ago here in this post officially, but sadly some popular clients continue to show the initial name. i set it to "maria [she/her]" some time ago, but clients like "infinity" still display the raw username..... whivh is sad- but oh well---

[–] F04118F@feddit.nl 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Heart-warming as always, Maria!

On the first light of the fifth day, at dawn look to the Brits for more endearing terms, ... love.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ebb272kjmWQ

[–] mauubunzie_Kittyroll69420@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

self slander, thou is a good girl, guilty as charged

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 months ago

nunununununununununuuuu >o< nuuu!!!!!! or,..... hmm--

iguess... iguess.. i cant stop u from saying that,.,..

umm--.... thank you....?,.... iduno what to say here u kno?...

its kinda like... i dont even really kni what a "good girl" is..... like.... "Good" is such a generic positive adjective. girl is preddi specific tho. so im a... generic positive girl? i dont think thats the intent... im obv overanalyzing stuff here - i jus find it interesting how those words r used,... any what they might actually refer to

today on matrix i talked to a peep about how mayb i dont like hearing that cuz it feels kinda impersonal - and it would be improved if the allegations were more specific - but mayb that would feel exposing..... not sure bout that tho.... really duno- aaanywayyyyy---

i am willing to accept charges placed on me for my sins

[–] KawaiiBitch@lemmy.world 11 points 3 months ago
[–] Lucidlethargy@sh.itjust.works 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

"lowk"

Sigh... Stay in school, kids.

you can take the girl off tiktok but CANT GET THE FUCKING TIKTOK VOCABULARY OUT HER HEAD (kill me /silly)