Asklemmy

If he were going to physically harm you or your family in any way, he wouldn't be harassing you on the phone. He's legit just trying to scare you.

The best approach here is to "grey rock" him, which in this case just means not answering. You said you don't use the home phone so just disconnect whatever device. You said your wife has blocked him so that's sorted. Close your fb account or don't log in or whatever.

Call the police and make an actual report to get an actual report number. Here any kind of threat made over a "wire service" is a crime. They may not investigate but that's not the point, in the infinitessimal chance the guy escalates, you want some history.

Refresh home security without going nuts. Maybe a ~~ring~~ door camera, make sure window locks are installed.

Then just go about your life, but maybe avoid throw down arguments on fb.

Edit: don't buy a ring camera.

Home security.

Get a basic gun. Practice at a range. If you can afford it, invest in security cameras.

I guess you could involve a lawyer if the situation becomes untenable.

Don’t panic; theres a 99%+ chance you’ll be fine.

But don’t ignore the 1%. To all the “it’s just an internet troll” folks: see Jonathan Ross, where one such angry troll shot him dead, just because:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jonathan_Joss

May he rest in peace :(

Get a gun and learn how to use it.

But as other commenters have said, if he was actually intending on killing you, it'd be real stupid to call you in advance to say so. Most likely just wants to scare you.

You know the person's Facebook name? That might help.

Maybe this? https://www.ic3.gov/

ITT: "Probably just a harmless troll"

In any other time in my life I would have agreed. However, the amount of delusion that has infected a great number of our populace means you need to take this seriously. A few more weeks of paranoia and propaganda and this person might just decide it is their holy duty to act.

Others have said arming yourself and increasing home security. That gets you to 50/50 odds in an actual confrontation, imo. Better than nothing.

Also agree with others that the police will be useless until it is time to draw a chalk outline around someone. If you can afford it, it might be time to get a lawyer involved. Rule of law isn't completely dead at the working level and properly applied pressure from the judiciary might prompt action by authorities. At least it might force some sort of discovery that could enable additional actions.

Good luck.

The police are useless

As i don't want to divulge too much, some information will be sporatic/somewhat improper.

My family dealt with a neighbor, which of whom I can only describe as a plurality of serial harassers. By that I mean we were not the first, nor the last family for this entire family to explicitly target and fixate on for at least months on end. This was before 2016 to add (they ended up right where you'd expect).

Not just a not ring camera. Seriously DM me and im more than willing to help on the technical side of setting up a Frigate local NVR. Shouldnt cost your more than $200. If you go the home assistant route, it makes it trivial to set up an alarm system with zigbee or simular devices.

Now i have to be careful, among other things the neighbor was having their kids steal our mail, we recorded evidence of such, but they seemingly had a friend in the PD. Im not saying to expect this or necessarily take my advice, but especially being a red area, the cops will not help you if it comes to it. They will be 15 minutes after a shooting is called in.

We had evideable damage and video of one of their kids trying to break in our garage.

They still put my parents enployement at the time in jeopardy.

You get the 2A side of that, but ideally you want to avoid that entirely.

We eventually put up proper cameras, and some of the derangement subsided, floodlights are of particular use.

You cannot let yourself live in paranoia. But similarly you cannot be caught with your pants down.

We were in a ranch, thus no upstairs. They would shine flashlights at our windows. Laser pointer to the eyes would stop them quick.

Your situation is a lot more - forward. But there are pieces of information i believe you could use to your benefit in a preparedness scenario.

Again, DM me if you need any technical help, I'll be happy to

PS definitely be done with FB. Theres a lot more shit than this one clown to do with that place. Ive been trying to avert my SOs father from something similar as well, but FB is another tool of this admin ib many ways

If you can DM me their name and any other identifying info you have (general city, photos, phone number, email address, social links, etc.) I can maybe provide quite a bit of info on them. I will not say how.

But I would also ask what the end game is here?

He probably found your info online through a data broker. Everyone's info is pretty available on any search engine...

I had a similar situation once. I signed up for Optery to try to delete all of my info. It worked. Also, keep in mind that you can be tracked via family. So you might delete your data, but some of your info may still be available if they're able to look up any family members.

This also works in reverse though! If you have any of his info, you can look him up on various data broker sites.

Also, I invested in an alarm system, cameras to sleep better at night. Slept with my phone near and I bought some pepper spray and a bat.

Sorry man, that’s freaky. Dude sounds unhinged. What info do you have on him from Facebook? The info he says he has on you - how much did he actually prove by stating it? Could be that he just got the minimum info and is making the most of it to make it sound like he knows a lot more.

When you spoke to him, what kind of accent did he have? Did he sound local?

Can I ask how you know it was him calling your wife? How were you guys able to block his number without being able to view it?

Get something on your phones to record conversations. Don't delete your voicemail

I'm sorry that you and your family are going through this, this is a genuinely terrifying situation to be in and you're not overreacting by going to the police or taking this guy seriously.

Considering your logistics, you should look into getting a firearm if you don't have one already. It also doesn't hurt to put in a police report like others suggested. One thing I haven't seen suggested itt: if there are people in your family that are too young for school/daycare or SAHW you need to think about having a contingency plan for them in case you're at work. This could be anything from an escape route if someone gets into the house to having neighbors show up at a phone call (or leaving family with them).

I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with an unhinged lunatic, and I'm frustrated on your behalf that the police won't do anything. Ironically, you could call the police, threaten to kill their family, and you'll be picked up for free and taken to a safe place the lunatic can't get at you

I'd start by identifying what he actually knows. He's proven he has obtained your names, phone numbers, and probably that you live in Nebraska; which is scary enough, but not enough to find you and cause harm.

Search for your names and phone numbers using multiple search engines. I would look for addresses, or places of work. If he can find out where you work, it makes it much easier for an adversary to find you. An easy place to check is LinkedIn. If there is a connection with your names and where you work, I'd speak with someone at work. Tell them you have a stalker and:

1. Ensure any customer support agents are aware they are NEVER to provide personal information about employees, EVEN IF IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR BOSS ON THE PHONE. KnowB4 has some good training resources (not sponsored)
2. To inform you if anyone has requested you / your family's information.

Next time he calls, you can ask him for your address. He's been pretty up front about the knowledge he has so far, so check his homework and see how far he's gotten. That will give you an idea if he can actually attack now, or attack later. If he doesn't know your address / where you work, it doesn't mean he can't find out later. I'd also suggest to not lead with (do you know where I work?) as it will give him an idea; but maybe ask him how he plans on killing you? Gruesome, but it'll let him blab. Maybe ask a friend to do this so you're not up all night thinking about it.

On the protection side: Unfortunately if the police isn't willing to help, you'll have to take matters into your own hands. Idk what the firearm laws are like in Nebraska, but you might want to look into it for self defence. I cant answer legal questions, but I'm more than happy to talk about firearms

Do some of your own counter-intelligence yourself. Look up the guys name, email, phone number; whatever you can get (I wasn't able to look at the Facebook profile). Build a profile against him. Might help next time you contact the police. Also, write it down somewhere and take screenshots. If he knows you're onto him, he could delete his accounts.

Finally, speak with a lawyer. They may be able to offer additional advice and bully the courts / police into getting off their asses and helping you more

I'm sorry I can't do more to help but offer advice and answer questions

Good luck

Isn't Frank Rizzo also one of the monikers used by "The Jerky Boys"? The prank calling group from the 90's that used to make tapes?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Jerky_Boys

Yup...

Frank Rizzo – an extremely abrasive, foul-mouthed blue-collar Italian-American New Yorker with bizarre complaints and requests (voiced by Johnny Brennan). Frank curses repeatedly at a potential employer during an inquiry about a job, and accuses the Mickey Mouse character at Disney World of being sexually inappropriate with his children.

Buy a handgun (or a rifle if money's no object), let me know a budget and I can talk you through what your best options are there if you'd like. I was going to say security system, but a more cost effective solution might be to get deadbolts on all exterior doors (easier the smaller your house is and even easier if you're in an apartment that'll let you)

This is 100% just a troll. He's not going to do anything physically. If you don't have your profile locked down, it would be fairly easy to find very basic information about you. As far as what you can do, you can report the profile to Facebook. You can report the profile to IC3 as was recommended. Or you can try to dig into him. His profile is pretty locked down, but there are ways that you could try to get information if you dig far enough. He called you so you should have something.