It's unfortunate so many terms of endearment are gendered. Habibi/habibti, ése, khouia, fra
The aussies really had it right when they decided to call everyone cunt
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I hate to break it to you about whether "cunt" is gendered or not...
don't be a terf, everyone can be a cunt, and everyone can have a cunt, even men.
make sure you celebrate all the cunts in your life
Genuine question, is this the same law that allows one to call anyone a dick?
no idea, but feel free to call anyone a dick, even me. go ahead
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Ignoring for a moment that men can have vaginas and whatnot, the origin of the word is from the sex bits, but the word itself isn't gendered. Same way you can say "she's a dick".
On second thought, it gets a little murky because that word is in some places used specifically to demean women, but that's not Australia's fault. It would be great if we all just agreed to end misogyny to fix that issue.
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I was thinking about this recently and I feel like maybe people use gendered terms of endearment is because they're gender affirming. The gendered aspect is not a side effect. Affirming someone's gender is a nice thing to do and feels nice to have it done to you and our language reflects this.
The obvious corollary is that it is the addressee that gets to decide what terms of endearment are gender affirming for them, not the person addressing them. There are too many people that insist they're being gender neutral when they say "dude" because their associations with the word are not gendered, but what they should be doing is bothering to ask what the person they're talking to would find affirming and using that.
The term you use is for the person you're addressing not for you, and you should want them to feel good about it. If someone tells you they don't like being called dude because they find it gendered, you should fucking stop calling them dude.
If someone tells you they don't like being called dude because they find it gendered, you should fucking stop calling them dude.
Forget gender, if someone doesn't like being called something, don't call them that. It's one of those cases where respecting trans people is the same action as basic human decency.
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Hey their lady mcfemale girl gal
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I don't have many trans people in my life and I always stumbled over my words when I found myself in a position where I had to address them in the third person.
My most awkward memory is a conversation with my friend where I addressed her as "my wee lass".
Anyway, we're married now and expecting our third Calico.
Three? That's a lot of personality in one place.
Itt: everyone doing everything except using the right pronouns
This is why I just use "friend" to refer to everyone.
All genders inclusive, respectful, friendly. Don't have to try and figure anything out.
"Hey, friend",
"Pardon, friend",
"Thanks, friend",
Simple
Mellon!
Is "Pal" also gender inclusive? I got this weird feeling that a pal is more of a little boy than a girl?
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That's why you gotta hit em with the "homie", "home slice", "big dawg", "amigo", "boss", or "friendo".
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The Dude would not abide people who intentionally try to make someone else’s day shit. Live and let’s bowl, I say.
To be serious though, you are valid and deserve courtesy, understanding, and respect. I hate that people do that. Especially those around us.
That Blahaj really tied the transgirl together
I ain't your bro son.
A few of these remind me of their usage in customer support, and boy I hate them already before getting into the actual transmeme.
"Lady", but I say it like Moe Sizlack talking to the Listen Lady.
What does this mean? The character looks very androgynous and could be either male or female, trans or cis. Is this referring to how gender-neutral-looking people get assumed to be male?
They look fairly fem to me; at the very least not masculine enough to be consistently gendered male in good faith.
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I thought the picture was a woman, not even a little bit androgynous. Interesting how interpretations vary.
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