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[–] possumparty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 day ago

Looks like this post has gained a lot of attention so I'd just like to drop the rules in here as a reminder-

"Rules...

  1. Women only... trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn't allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women's community is a good fit for them.

  2. Don't be a dick. No personal attacks, no aggression, play nice.

  3. Don't hate on groups, hatefilled talk about groups is not allowed. Ever.

  4. No governmental politics, so no talk of Trump actions etc. We recommend Feminism@beehaw.org for that, but here is an escape from it.

  5. New accounts or users with few comments may have their posts removed to prevent spam and bad-faith participation."

[–] Rivermoonwolf@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Wait til you learn why there's no major women's baseball.......

[–] ManixT@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Why? I don't follow baseball, but I'm curious.

[–] Magnum@infosec.pub 12 points 1 day ago

The government is hiding the fact that women exist

[–] Lucidlethargy@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Why are these gendered? How stupid.

Let them all start at once, at one event.

[–] Atomic@sh.itjust.works 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Contrary to popular belief, it's not generally that women are banned from men's sports.

It's men that are banned from women's sports.

[–] Gathorall@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

That's what the "Open" in many sporting events means. Anyone who passes preliminaries is free to attend.

[–] Photonic@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago (2 children)

That usually doesn’t work. It will give unfair advantages to women who manage to “catch the wheel” of a male cyclist and especially the ones who manage to hang behind an entire group of men.

It takes much less effort to closely follow a cyclist and even much less effort than that to hang at the back of the peloton than to ride by yourself.

Now of course you can make rules about female cyclists not being allowed to get closer than X amount of distance behind a male cyclist, but that is just much more complicated than simply separating the groups.

It is also the reason why they banned male pacemakers running in front of the top female marathon runners. It is unfair to the rest of the group who have to do the running on their own.

[–] guybrush_threepwood_MP@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ironman triathlons are a great example of a race where "drafting" is forbidden. Men and women compete on the same course at the same time, but every athlete must maintain a specific distance from others to ensure they are not gaining an unfair advantage by riding in another person's slipstream.

https://www.ironman.com/news/ironman-releases-2026-ironman-global-competition-rules

[–] Photonic@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Regular triathlons as well. But the rules are different there than in regular cycling.

[–] Mighty@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Yeah that's bullshit. Because the same thing happens in male-only races. Some people hang on to the peleton. That's racing strategy.

[–] excral@feddit.org 7 points 1 day ago

No, it's absolutely no bullshit. Normally you can either stay in the peleton and conserve your energy or you try your luck and break away but give up drafting. You can't draft behind something that's not part of the same race. For a female breakaway cyclist to use the draft of a male peleton is essentially like drafting behind a team car. That's not some clever strategy, that's cheating

[–] Photonic@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Not if you think about this a little more than 2 seconds….

But sure, I will explain some more.

In a combined race, even the fastest women have something to draft behind that rides faster than they normally could: a man. That gives them an unfair advantage over the other riders who don’t have that same advantage.

The only thing faster than the fastest men is a motorised vehicle. And drafting behind that is also illegal.

Or simply put: the reason a woman can’t draft behind a man is the same reason a man can’t draft behind a motorcycle.

[–] zalgotext@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

In a combined race, even the fastest women have something to draft behind that rides faster than they normally could: a man.

Ok, but every single race has people drafting behind others that are faster than them, right? Why is it a-ok for a slow man to draft behind a fast man, but it's cheating for a woman to draft behind a man?

[–] Magnum@infosec.pub 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 23 hours ago)

Only the second person can draft, not the first. In this case the first person drafted, I think that's what this is about right?

Edit: oh shit I'm not a woman, so I am not allowed to participate

[–] Photonic@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Yes. Behind another human cyclist. Not behind motorcycles or anything other that is faster than human capabilities.

[–] DrSteveBrule@mander.xyz 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

the fastest women have something to draft behind that rides faster than they normally could: a man

The fastest women are always going to be behind a man? The slowest man is always going to be in front of the fastest woman? I don't know shit about competitive cycling, but I'd love to see some stats to support that claim.

[–] Photonic@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Why would they pick the slowest man to draft behind?

No they would draft behind any man that is faster than them, but not too fast so that they will not be dropped.

[–] Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

why cant I be faster than a man on a bike?

youre saying I could never win a single race against any man?

[–] Photonic@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Uhhh… what?

[–] kahjtheundedicated@lemmy.world 109 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (5 children)

The race organizers really fucked that one up. But women catching the back of the men’s peloton is a “problem” that happens from time to time, and it can be hard to tell when it’s incidental or intentional strategy. It has been a tactic for some women to push extra hard at the start to try and catch the men’s field to draft behind them until the finish, which is an unfair advantage. Which is explicitly illegal in most racing series.

Though that gets complicated when it’s a woman catching a large men’s peloton that the female rider can’t ride alongside, and would have to just ride awkwardly far behind the pack to avoid running afoul of the rules.

I don’t know the details of this race in particular, but it seems the organizers halted the race to avoid this once they realized they really should have started the women’s race later. Was she intentionally trying to catch the men’s group? Maybe. Starting a breakaway from 2km in is almost certainly unsustainable, so if she wasn’t planning on catching the men’s field, it was either gross overconfidence or terrible strategy. She was very likely going to get caught by the women’s peloton regardless, and passed since they’ll be on fresher legs when they do catch her.

Edit: I should add that stopping the race for a few minutes with a neutralized restart is not entirely uncommon in pro cycling. For example, if part of the field has to stop and wait for a passing train, they’ll stop the front of the race as well, and restart them with the approximate gaps between groups they had before the train.

[–] melfie@lemmy.zip 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This article is clickbaity, making the situation sound like misogyny to the uninformed, but I wasn’t aware of the profound effect of slipstreaming in cycling, so TIL.

[–] nimrod06@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Misandrist society as always

[–] LadyButterfly@reddthat.com 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Hi nimrod and welcome to WomensStuff! We're a trans inclusive women only forum and ask cis men don't comment. Please check out the rules ❤️

[–] Photonic@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

While I don’t agree with nimrod, I do think the entire premise that cis men aren’t allowed to comment is misandrist. 

  1. Women only... trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn't allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women's community is a good fit for them.

To illustrate this, let’s change the groups a bit:

  1. Men only... trans men are men, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn't allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a men’s community is a good fit for them.

Or…

1: cis only. Cis women are cis, cis men are cis. Cisphobic talk is not allowed. Anyone under the cis umbrella is… etc 

Or…

1: Non-black people only. Chinese and Hispanics are non-black. Negative talk about Hispanics is not allowed. Anyone under the lightly colored umbrella….

Etc. 

It will always be discriminatory and, depending on what group you’re excluding either sexist, racist, misogynist, misandrist, transphobic, etc. to exclude certain groups based on what they were born as. Excluding men isn’t any better than excluding trans people, especially if you claim to be inclusive.

So don’t just claim to be inclusive, be inclusive, and don’t ban other human beings from posting. I don’t care whether you’re a man, woman, trans person, or about the colour of your skin. You’re a human being.

So why can’t I post in a community simply because I was born a certain way?

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Thanks for your thoughts! We are women only because we need a safe space. Due to you repeatedly breaking the rules we've banned you, but please enjoy your weekend ❤️

[–] Photonic@lemmy.world 2 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

I’m sorry but that is just not okay.

Imagine

we are white only because we need a safe space

Why can I be discriminated against because of what other men have done?

Why is it okay to do this to a man? You wouldn’t do this to any other group. What makes you think any of this is alright?

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 4 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Let me flip that around.

Why do men (and let's be honest here, almost always specifically white men) simply have to comment where:

  1. They have no meaningful lived experience outside of "I think i saw a woman in porn once".
  2. The people who are talking don't want to be constantly correcting and educating the ignorant.
  3. The group in question is a single fucking group out of literally THOUSANDS OF GROUPS where they are unwelcome?

Doesn't that just make you cringe a little, being so fucking whiny and so fucking self-centred that you can't stand a single fucking space that doesn't want you?

Note: these questions are for you to ponder, not reply, because:

  1. Answering it is against the rules. Don't be the kind of whiny shit that breaks the rules because your ego got bruised.
  2. I won't see the answer because nothing is more of a turn-off for conversational purposes than a whiny manosphere twit. You're getting blocked the moment I hit "Reply".
[–] Photonic@lemmy.world 2 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

Let me rephrase that:

Note: I simply replaced your misandrist remarks with racist remarks, these are not my opinion.

Why do blacks (and let's be honest here, almost always specifically blacks) simply have to comment where:

  1. They have no meaningful lived experience outside of "I think i saw a white person in porn once".
  2. The people who are talking don't want to be constantly correcting and educating the ignorant black people.
  3. The group in question is a single fucking group out of literally THOUSANDS OF GROUPS where they are unwelcome?

Doesn't that just make you cringe a little, being so fucking whiny and so fucking self-centred that you can't stand a single fucking space that doesn't want you because you are a black person?

Note: these questions are for you to ponder, not reply, because:

  1. Answering it is against the rules. Don't be the kind of whiny black shit that breaks the rules because your ego got bruised.
  2. I won't see the answer because nothing is more of a turn-off for conversational purposes than a whiny black twit. You're getting blocked the moment I hit "Reply".

Why would you treat one group of humans differently than others? Why would you be racist, or misogynist or misandrist? Absolutely appalling behaviour.

Even now your comment is absolutely filled with derogatory remarks towards me and other men. I don’t think this is the case you want to be making if you’re trying to convince me this is not all just misandry.

And don’t flatter yourself. I have no interest in a conversation with a racist, misandrist or any other kind of -ist. I’m simply posting this to show others how horrible you treat other human beings.

[–] Fmstrat@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] kahjtheundedicated@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah it’s a little different for ultras. Drafting isn’t allowed, so they play out very differently from road races, they tend to spread out. But absolutely incredible result from Maddy!

[–] Fmstrat@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Good point on the draft requirements, I'm more commonly watching women's gravel or MTB. So people like Maddy and Syd who commonly push past large contingents of the men's groups.

[–] N0t_5ure@lemmy.world 28 points 2 days ago

Wow, thanks for the insight! In this clickbait world, it's nice to get other perspectives.

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[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 26 points 2 days ago (3 children)

The article. The snapshot is fairly accurate. She was catching up to the mens' race support vehicles, they stopped her for five minutes. She lost her momentum and her groove, ended up finishing in 74th place.

https://www.cnn.com/2019/03/04/sport/cycling-women-belgium-intl-scli-spt/

And this article says perhaps the entire women's race field was paused, not just the one cyclist in the lead. But anyone who's ever done any sort of distance sport event, you know stopping for 5 minutes can absolutely destroy your performance. A mental and physical disruption.

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/nicole-hanselmann-omloop-het-nieuwsblad-2019-cycling-race-men-belgium/

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Wouldn't it be good to rest after pushing so hard at the start of the race? That could actually create an advantage compared to people who didn't need a rest because they were pacing themselves more. I don't race though so idk

[–] BitchPeas@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Imagine your whole body wants you to stop. It physically hurts. The pain is how your body is telling you to stop. You manage to somehow compel yourself to keep going.

Then you stop. Your body gets what it wants. And the pain hits and immobilizes you. No more rhythm to distract you.

Immediately the inertia is gone. You just wanna stop, know you can't. Every moment of that waiting and knowing you have to continue is torment.

To be stopped when in such a good groove is going to be even more demoralizing.

Yeah that 5 mins was a nightmare.

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[–] Wren@lemmy.today 16 points 2 days ago (1 children)

While I'm sure there's a lot more nuance to this picture, I'm not going to split hairs over a metaphor I'm sure we're all intimately familiar with.

Reminds me of the many bosses I've had who expected me to be nicer to butthurt male employees when they weren't used to having a woman supervisor. "Think about how hard it is for t h e m."

[–] Jankatarch@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

If a man goes slow and falls to womens side do they give him a car ride or stop all the women? Like what's the standard protocol there.

Just like women aren’t allowed to draft behind men, men aren’t allowed to draft women. So if he wanted to stay in the race, he’d just have to try to stay to the side of any passing female riders. Though in practice if he’s that far back, he’ll probably either drop or be pulled from the race.

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