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Holy fuck, I can already see it coming so before any bullshit even starts...
Ahem... is this thing 📣 on? OK...
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And here I was grabbing some snacks to watch another exciting comment section unfold.
I'm gonna lock sooner in future. I really don't like silencing people, and cutting out people's really interesting conversations... but the manosphere are just so eye rollingly predictable
They’re so boring at this point. Why not brigade a post about lace shorts and contribute some fashion advice instead, geez!
this is a joke please don’t comment on any posts here plz
You know what was nice? When I posted the request for more music a couple of dudes dm'd me some of their favorite female artists, to respect our space.
That was very cool of them.
I often get nice DMs from men saying how much they support us! I love them
That's wonderful to hear. I was just saying the other day how much it sucks that we only see dudes who reinforce their manosphere bullshit around here. It gives me hope to hear from the good guys, too.
Yep we do... Blaze and !dadforaminute@lemmy.world have been our biggest cheerleaders from day one, and I even get men messaging saying they've blocked the community cos they don't want to disrespect us by reading it. Sadly the vocal minority love having their tantrums in our sandbox
That’s really cool of them oh my goodness! I love that!!
Thank you <3
Intersectionality is the idea that people can suffer from disadvantages due to the specific combination of their identities, which people with just one of those identities wouldn't. While general misandry is a nothingburger, I think there are consequential forms of intersectional misandry.
For example, transmisandry. That's the unique challenges trans men face, which aren't faced by cis men or trans people of other genders. Trans men are often erased and ignored to a greater degree than trans women. A lot of transphobes talk about how "men can't get pregnant", and are thinking about trans women, not trans men. Trans men often suffer misgendering when they seek menstrual or gynecologic care.
There are also the ways black men face forms of racism that black women tend not to face. As soon as a black boy turns 10 years old, he's considered by society to be a man when it comes to the law. And yet many black men over 18 are called "boy" and excluded from adulthood in other areas.
As a transfemme enby, I used to have some really strong emotional reactions about perceived misandry. That's mellowed out a lot since I transitioned, but I'm still gonna bat for our brothers in the trans community and the Blak community. I think the reason I got so upset about this stuff when I was a teenager was because I was used to perceiving Myself as a boy/man, and I fucking hated it, and felt it was the worst thing ever. So I was thinking "You don't understand how hard it is to be a man! I want to kill myself every day because I'm a man!" And yeah, that's a huge egg moment. I'm able to think more clearly about this stuff now that I'm out of all of that sort of thinking.
yeah i used to be much more up in arms against misandry for the same reasons. it was really hard trying to be a man when i was really a woman inside, so i thought thats what it was like for all men. i also really hated having stereotypes that were basically the exact opposite of me applied to me just because i was perceived as a man. that shit really hurt. like yes im horny a lot but im not a heartless sex fiend or a rapist. i like kids but that doesnt mean im a pedo. i felt like i had to do so much hedging against male stereotypes because it felt like people were so ready to apply them to me even though i didnt fit them at all.
since transitioning i get it a lot more. i really didnt realize how differently men treat women in general, in a bad way. even men who dont know im a woman treat me differently since i started estrogen, like theyre subconsciously picking up on the vibe. the worst though is when men know im a trans woman. ive finally been cat called and it made me feel so uncomfortable. ive been asked how big my dick is more times than i care to count, though that is mostly just dating apps and chatting with randos online. i could list more of my experiences but i know ive barely scratched the surface compared to what cis women have gone through. i keep expecting these to be isolated incidents, to find most men are chill, but i keep being disappointed. so i get misandry much more now. its built brick by brick by horrible men treating women badly, until the inescapable conclusion is fuck men.
Not uncontroversial in some spaces, but I have heard some trans masc folks describe that intersection as transandrophobia to distinguish it from misandry.
I’d wear the camo hoodie in a heartbeat hahaha
I have hip-hugging loose pants in a similar pattern, which I usually pair with a nice, tight black tee.
Me too. Is it for sale somewhere? 😉
They kinda look like clothes for toddlers which is funnier to me