[-] IvarK@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 4 days ago

If you’re interested in actually good (tm) internet horror whether it’s short stories or video series or podcasts, i can probably hook you up on all fronts B)

[-] IvarK@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 2 months ago

In swedish we say “jänkare” as a derogatory term, you don’t have anything similar?

[-] IvarK@lemmygrad.ml 15 points 2 months ago
[-] IvarK@lemmygrad.ml 32 points 2 months ago

I’m pretty sure Aleksa has mentioned having a girlfriend numerous times

[-] IvarK@lemmygrad.ml 14 points 3 months ago

Sweden definitely celebrates it as labor day, lots of marches and stuff

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submitted 3 months ago by IvarK@lemmygrad.ml to c/askchapo@hexbear.net

Ok so what I suppose you would call an "elder zoomer" or whatever, born in the span of '98-'02, entering my mid-20s. Get all your geriatric chomsky emotes out of your systems, it's fine. My parents were born in '71 and '72 respectively, meaning they just entered their 50s. My dad has always been a computer guy, played dnd back in the 80s, introduced me and my brother to pirating media growing up, etc. Basically, he's a nerd. He's always been a nerd. He also holds some weird contradictory views ranging from very based (like pirating and hating the US) to very chuddy but that's unrelated for now.

My point is, my dad isn't some tech-illiterate boomer who hates "the iphones and nintendos" or whatever. Despite this, he's completely, and I mean completely oblivious to any and all internet culture. Hell, my mom runs circles around him in terms of being able to understand memes and me and my brother have even gotten her to start using "copium" correctly to my uncle (which is hilarious but also resulted in me having to explain to my extended family what it means during christmas dinner). It's not like my dad didn't get on the internet when it first came around, he was a super early adopter of both cellphones and the internet. I also know that he has spent a not-insignificant amount of time on various hobby forums and so on. He still doesn't know what a "meme" is though, he sends me and my brother "funny pictures" which are all some rank-ass 2012 facebook-funny-page tier shit that always manages to be a bit problematic no matter how innocent the subject matter seems.

He's also incredibly thin-skinned online. He's tried playing online games because, well, he like playing games! He just can't though; he gets so incredibly offended over any and all toxicity (yes toxicity is bad but he's a grown-ass white cishet male he's not exactly being targeted with violent slurs) that it would probably be incredibly humorous as an outsider.

His relationship to media online is also quite interesting. He's fully aware of youtube, with the caveat that to him it's still just the site where you "go to find a grainy video of some indian with a thick accent to fix an obscure tech problem" (paraphrased from him) or where you watch uploads of live concerts or clips from TV shows. Basically any video uploaded after 2010 doesn't exist to him. Youtube is just for home-video amateurs, there's no artistic merit in it, "why would you ever watch someone else play a game? are you stupid"-type-beat, etc. I think if I showed him something like a Jacob Geller essay he would just straight up not get it.

The same goes for video games. While he plays plenty of newer games, he thinks of all games as being either competitive match-based PvP games like counter strike or single player experiences where you play from the start to the end once and then the game is done. I've tried so many times to explain to him that the reason ESO is so weird coming from skyrim is that it's an MMO, and MMOs are fundamentally different. He has no concept of roguelikes or other games that deviate from this standard form of a "cinematic" single-player experience. Just recently he started playing 7 Days to Die and it has been blowing his mind seeing this "super innovative gameplay loop", but instead of contextualizing it in terms of other survival-crafty games, he thinks it's cool because "it's just like Fallout with the scavenging"

Idk people I don't really have a big point to make here at the end. I love my dad even if our relationship is a bit strained, and the stuff I bring up here are not meant to be specific to him. My mom is the same minus the video games in many ways (not understanding that online videos are more than just charlie bit my finger etc). I'm also aware that framing it as a generational thing is a bit unhelpful and all that, but what can you do.

Do you people have similar stories with tech-literate people who are somehow completely out of touch in terms of internet culture? It's somehow fascinating to me, and I think maybe talking about it could help me communicate with my parents about it better.

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submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by IvarK@lemmygrad.ml to c/chapotraphouse@hexbear.net

Last night i dreamt that i was explaining to someone how before Reagan the CIA was HQd in Wyoming and agents got paid extra to live there with their families. Then in the 80s the HQ was moved to California and because of it being a more populated and “nice” state the benefit programs were scrapped for the spooks and it was a whole thing.

Mind you I'm not american, my brain just invents new ways of illustrating how cartoon villain the US government is that they dont even treat their feds decently

What i described above never happened afaik it’s just something my brain made up but i swear of read it on here id be like “yeah ok sounds plausible”

Death to America.

[-] IvarK@lemmygrad.ml 25 points 5 months ago

Do you have any sources for these? And is there any data on how the working conditions are in terms of safety, stress, etc? I’d love to have this post as something i can show libs, but as it is it’ll just be handwaved away :c

[-] IvarK@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 5 months ago

Wow, thank you! That was a very interesting read. Best of luck to you in you journey, and happy Thursday!

[-] IvarK@lemmygrad.ml 13 points 5 months ago

Would you mind expanding on the point of gender dysphoria and being non-binary? For transparency I am a cishet man who doesn't know any enbies (a fair few other lgbt+ folks though so I'm fairly familiar with other queer experiences)

I am asking in good faith, trying my best to learn so I can use my privilege for good (hopefully). Thank you for the post, comrade!

[-] IvarK@lemmygrad.ml 15 points 6 months ago

Rust is awesome though (and it also manages to be the singular language with a fairly friendly non-chud community)

[-] IvarK@lemmygrad.ml 29 points 7 months ago

Friendly reminder that dota 2 has amazing native linux support and valve is recently taking direct actions against cheaters and smurfs without resorting to intrusive anti-cheats cccc:

[-] IvarK@lemmygrad.ml 18 points 9 months ago

Yeah more or less. It's used like cracker but for white swedes and it's really funny (disclaimer I'm a svenne)

[-] IvarK@lemmygrad.ml 16 points 9 months ago

I think it's worth trying an "if if not for you, do it for me" angle. Her getting burned out doesn't just hurt herself, it also hurts you (and others close to her). Just like the two of you probably have boundaries in your relationship related to giving each other space and so on, she needs to set boundaries in her relationship with her work.

From your description it sounds like she might be neurodivergent which I understand can make it trickier to "just stop doing bad thing lmao". Once you're in that place mentally it can also be hard to really see the damage you are doing to yourself. It might be easier for her to see the value in being a little "selfish" (as in not vending over backwards for her employer) if it is framed as a way to make someone she cares about (you) happier.

Of course I don't know the specifics of your relationship or her as a person, this is just my take. Much love, comrade!

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