dustbunnies
all the environmental prophecies I heard while I was in DSA are coming true
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they closed the border
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they're oppressing unpapered migrants
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they're kicking people out who were here with all the proper paperwork
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they're working on ways to revoke citizenship
literally everything I was told ten years ago about how this was gonna go down is how it is going down. stopped watch and all, I know, but still. it's just very surreal to see it so fucking obvious, so very soon.
I just feel like if we had a movement to harness the fury of trans women and perimenopausal women, the ICE nazis would literally run and hide from us
I have made men twice my size cower from the look in my eyes, by myself, alone. we could shake governments with our fury combined.
oh hello, you're talking about me
I'm gonna be real with you, though: nobody cares about my takes. since I don't have a Real Job and have only done paperwork (women's work, donchano) and childcare (same) for the last two decades, none of my opinions count.
being a perimenopausal lady has not been helping my case; as you all have experienced, I'm not exactly ✨stable✨
it's not great: women are either locked up in childcare until they're perimenopausal psychopaths like myself, or their opinions are ignored because they didn't raise children so what do they know.
this plus a conversation today on /r/perimenopause has me ready to try to restart the Womyn's Circles movement
honestly kinda pissed that you fuckers drove off Ivysaur
sure, I've been under a rock, but what the actual fuck
come to the blue dots
there's usually at least one other person masked in my grocery store
ME TOO
they are really great kids who care deeply about the world, and I will protect them with my life
they were always weird
I was deeply skeptical of the "game" as a child and am even more so as an adult
what
where I'm from, "whippersnappers" are children 😂
what do you use that word for???
hello ❤️
my son is a senior in high school and will be attending prom with his boyfriend in about 3 months. he hasn't decided what exactly he's going to wear, but just in case it's a tux or a suit, I'm trying to get my ducks in a row because idk where to even begin. 🤦
searching "rent a tux near me" gets me all kinds of cis-man focused stuff, adding "trans man" onto the end didn't get better results. I'm sure there are all kinds of considerations to keep in mind, but idk the first thing about getting a tux for anyone at all, let alone a person with a different body shape than Average Dude.
I might be over-complicating this and worrying too much (haha me? 😅🙃 never!) please let me know if that's the case. it would be a huge relief!
I know we need to start with measurements; I'm fairly confident about taking them, since I've previously successfully measured him, my husband, and myself.
after that, I'm totally lost. his body shape is becoming more blocky and less curvy, but he's still got a little bit of hip that seems like it might be difficult to fit in suit pants. he has binders that he finds comfortable, so I think shirts and jackets might not be too difficult to fit, but heat might be an issue? he gets grumpy when he's too hot, just like his mom 🥰
we live in rural Ohio, so I don't feel comfortable taking him to a random rental place; most of the time, people are nice to us, but I don't want to risk it for prom. we can drive about 2 hours to get to Columbus, OH, which has a pretty large queer community and probably has a safer place to go for fitting than anywhere closer.
all of your thoughts, directions, suggestions, advice, encouragement, reprimands, and jokes are welcome 
thank you.
I was part of the group that got banned yesterday, and I need to apologize to you all.
I have seen people mention previously that sometimes mods take upvotes for agreement, but I haven't trained myself to stop the reddit habit of voting on "food for thought" things, useful-addition-to-the-conversation-but-not-my-pov posts, and placemarkers in active threads, and there aren't downvotes here to easily mark the shitty stuff I want to come back to and learn from. I should always be opening things in new tabs instead.
I foolishly upvoted this comment as a "food for thought" comment and planned to come back to the thread yesterday evening to find it and read the responses and learn from them. instead my upvote counted as agreement and got me banned, which I know is my fault for not adapting to site culture and not foreseeing how that would be interpreted.
I totally understand, feel like the worst kind of fool, and spent my ban time thinking about what a piece of shit I am. far worse than that is the thought that any of you might think I agree with that comment, so I am posting here to apologize profusely and publicly for my upvote. I'm really, truly, terribly sorry, and idk what to do to about it except fuck off and try not to be such a fuckhead in the future.
explanation (not excuse) for those who care to understand why
I live in Ohio, which is immersed in the kind of chud culture that comment was talking about – I see my formerly borderline leftist little brother slipping into it, and it kills me. it's a point of view I remember seeing a lot when I was in DSA and not liking then, but I lack the information and wisdom to effectively articulate my problems with it. I very much want to understand what to do about it and how to talk about this stuff with people who believe it, but I get why it was offensive and shitty to mark it for myself in a way that would default mean "this is good" to others instead of pushing back on it at all or just opening it in a new tab to look at later. I'm very sorry about doing that.
I didn't open it in a new tab because I'm pushing triple digits of tabs open and knew it would be easy to find later because the Amber bot was inflating the comment activity. I keep forgetting to be judicious with my upvotes because I'm AuDHD and unlearning a decade of reddit habits is hard.
you didn't know that was why I upvoted it, it just looked to you like a bunch of your alleged comrades liked that post, and I was one of them. I hope you can forgive me, but I understand if it made you think differently about me. I get it, and I'm just really, really sorry.
as soon as I figured out that I was banned and why, I sent a version of this via DM from my old account to an em_poc user who is very near and dear to my heart, but I don't feel right only apologizing to one person when so many of you could have been hurt by my upvote, hence this post. I'm sorry that my apology to the rest of you wasn't that immediate, but I was worried that posting it from my old account would be seen as ban evasion and make my contrition seem insincere.
I appreciate very much the kindness and compassion so many of you have shown me, and it is devastating to know that I have repaid it in this way.
I'm very, very, very sorry.
please heap your scorn and excoriation here.
this tickles the fuck outta me, what is this from?!
other possible tags: refrigerator, run, running, frig
that last one pains me to type but I know some people abbreviate it that way
commie tinkerer/mad genius mods a bicycle with a ring & pinion gear from a trailer jack. why? who knows, @shadowinlight@hexbear.net assures me that this kind of gear is not meant for speed, so it's not a very practical mod, but it is very interesting.
watch the wall behind him with he gets into the workshop in the first minute and you'll see his hammer & sickle 
he didn't play the anthem snippet when he showed it this time, but he usually does
someday, in a few years, it'll be done
maybe
probably
maybe
anyway, the point is that I think of this project everyday and rarely have time for it, but it stays close to my heart, and every now and then I make a little progress
may we all light the smokes of our choice off the zionists' flag
jk, of course. honestly feels a little shitty to make this joke, but I know she's not on Hexbear and it helps me feel better about this situation, so 🤷😂
jfc, it is genuinely shocking to understand this as her impression of me – just not at all the social feedback that I am used to
cannot tell you how many times I have been told I come off bitchy and c*nty and self-righteous – that sentence was genuinely astounding and I am still reeling, hence the post
officially AuDHD, with suggestion to seek OCD help as well
if you've been assessed, how did you feel about your results? did it take you a year to fully assimilate them? 😂 feeling like it's gonna take me at least that long to really take all of this in