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[-] rayne@hexbear.net 18 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

more sad posting, this time about parents

I'd like to take my mom's middle and maiden name when I legally change it. But my mom is dodging using my name. Most recently she used my dead name. Now she just dodges. She's a liberal.

And my dad is caught up in his patriarchal bullshit. His pride injured because I didn't spend enough time with him because my trauma got triggered. Trauma that he caused. Through physical and emotional abuse while I was a child. Also a liberal but with a lot of conservative values. Most of the liberal values his liberal wife has instilled in him.

Said liberal wife seems quite skeptical of my transition. Which is kind of the impression I get from my mom too.

I hate to say it because I feel ageist, but fucking boomers.

And fuck whatever generation I am (x/millennial?) because most of my friends are more interested in exploring their own gender queer feelings than supporting my transition and how difficult it is to be out.

On the bright side my kid was cool as fuck about it. I have a lot of love for all of the queer cartoons that he grew up on.

And my little brother has been nothing but supportive. As well as his wife. Much love for trans allies.

[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 6 months ago

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I don't have much to say, but I'm sorry. Your parents sound shitty and you deserve better.

At least your kid is cool :) I can't imagine what it would be like to have a chud child.

[-] rayne@hexbear.net 4 points 6 months ago

I appreciate that.

Not having a good day and all my transmega friends keep me sane.

[-] WalrusDragonOnABike@lemmy.today 6 points 6 months ago

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I’d like to take my mom’s middle and maiden name when I legally change it. But my mom is dodging using my name. Most recently she used my dead name. Now she just dodges. She’s a liberal.

Sorta relatable. In my case, I was given my first name because its really similar to my mom's name and I don't intend on changing it currently. OTOH, I'm not really out to my mom because she can be transphobic at times and when I did try to come out sorta, she just thought I was joking.

[-] rayne@hexbear.net 5 points 6 months ago

I'm sorry that you are experiencing that too. The skeptical silence from liberals is just as hurtful as the silence from transphobes.

[-] WalrusDragonOnABike@lemmy.today 5 points 6 months ago

My mom is a conservative who only doesn't vote republican because they're too homophobic (and she's a lesbian). Like, she used to listen to Limbaugh on her commute to work, etc.

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