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What's a life lesson you learned the hard way that you'd want to share with others to help them avoid the same mistake? (lemmy.world)

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[-] jqubed@lemmy.world 97 points 3 months ago

If you’re falling in love with someone who’s “perfect” you’re probably falling in love with someone who only exists in your head and not the real person. That’s a disservice to everyone involved.

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 32 points 3 months ago

Also, if your parents were abusive, be deeply skeptical of “love at first sight”.

The most amazing connection I ever had with a partner led to the worst abuse I’ve ever experienced.

[-] steeznson@lemmy.world 20 points 3 months ago

I've heard a 'crush' being described as an absence of knowledge about the actual person you are fixated on. It reminds me of the story Robert Pattinson told where he took his stalker out to lunch, bitched about his life for an hour, and then never saw her again!

[-] jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.works 11 points 3 months ago

In my case:

If you're falling in love with someone who's "perfect", you're probably falling in love with someone who has an undiagnosed mental illness and is very good at pretending to be the person she thinks you want her to be, for a while.

She will spend the next 6 years making your life very, very miserable.

[-] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 7 points 3 months ago

Where the fuck were you 30 years ago??? I was in 8th grade, and I was OBSESSED with (girls name redacted).

14 year old me saw wedding bells, and wild sex nights, and babies, and a house.

40 year old me knows I was just horny, and she was just putting out horny flirty vibes. I don't even know her favorite food!

[-] nikaaa@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago

yeah same, kinda

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