I used to take my twin daughters to the park and we would have daddy day while their mom was at work swing shifts.

We had pizza at the park, and it worked out because changing their diapers on a shitty blanket was easier than fumbling around on a bench since no one thought to put a diaper tray in any of the men’s restrooms.

Had the police called on me a few times. Never did they take the call seriously after showing up. One female officer told a Karen that she is annotating this as a fraud call because anyone with half a brain would realize it’s a dad eating pizza with his kids rather than a kidnapper molesting children in public.

Mom changes a diaper? No one cares.

I think its the larger double standard; men are sex monsters. A woman and a man can't be friends. A child with a man is in danger.

This is connected to; Intimacy is feminine. Men can only be vulnerable or gentle with their partners or families, if then. Its not universal, obviously, but the callous lover and the distant father are not so uncommon so as to be unrecognizable. Intimacy between men is also considered feminine, unless in the military or team sports.

It's a world we created as well. Every double standard listed in this thread is a double standard. But it is also something cultivated by the Patriarchy.