How would you process the fact that a new friend of yours is a cop? (USA) (lemmy.world)

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One of my new friends is/was a cop. Just found out about it. I genuinely believe ACAB, and this news has me conflicted because my new friend seems really cool and super nice. I don't know him super well yet, though. He's a big part of this new friend group and I don't know how to process this and how to deal with the fact he's a cop.

I don't want to look past the fact he's a cop, but I want to stay his friend and stay in this friend group.

Any advice for dealing with this shit?

I can't talk to my therapist about it until Thursday.

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[-] Susaga@sh.itjust.works 2 points 14 hours ago

How can you be so sure that's the lie? Is that not just your own prior belief? Why do others need to evaluate their beliefs, but yours should only be doubled down on? Is that not cognitive dissonance?

[-] Free_Opinions@feddit.uk 4 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

There are tens of millions of cops around the world. The idea that not a single one of them is a good person is so statistically improbable that I’d bet my life on it being false.

Can you name another broad generalization that applies to every single member of that group without exception?

[-] Susaga@sh.itjust.works 4 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

It's not statistical probability. It's cause and effect. All cops are bastards not because of luck, but because only bastards remain cops.

Ever heard the phrase "Nazi bar"? You let one nazi stick around, then more nazis come in and people who aren't nazis have to either leave, be nice to the nazis, or put up with a lot of nazi attacks. Either way, the entire bar becomes full of nazis.

Law enforcement is a bastard bar. If you're not a bastard, you leave. If you stay, you're either a bastard, a bastard enabler, or you have a target on your back and won't be a cop for long.

[-] Olhonestjim@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago

It's a private club that is only open to bastards. If someone stays, it's because the group decided they belong.

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