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I didn't even know we had bio's lol.
I think the second idea is great! And much better than just a (see bio). Keeping at least one acceptable option next to your name keeps it a very achievable goal that everyone uses the correct pronouns for others. If there is a constant need to click bios for the small comments, it might make it slightly more acceptable to misgender someone (because the excuse of "I was already typing and didn't want to click away, sorry" becomes more acceptable)
Yeah, if someone's pronouns are gated behind a link, it just becomes easier to play the Pronoun Game (avoiding using someone's pronouns at all) than it is to learn how to actually refer to someone respectfully.
I never look at bios and don't think doing so should become a necessary part of having a conversation.
As an extra option in addition to visible pronouns? Hell yeah why not.
At the same time, how often do you really need to refer to other users in the third person, and of those users, how many of them would actually use this feature? I don't think it's too unreasonable to spare the energy for a right click, left click, ctrl+tab, and ctrl+w — or a hold and five taps on mobile — for something you'll probably have to do once every five years.
Maybe I do too many "meta" comments, but I feel like I'm constantly referring to others. I do so usually using a name or "poster above you" out of an abundance of caution, but I unfortunately don't expect everyone will do it. Principally I agree. Pragmatically I would like more non he/hims to decide which to prioritize: avoiding misgendering altogether (the bio-only option leads to more misgendering, likely) vs getting to have a bio with a more expanded description be the standard for you.
Actually, on second thought, I guess everyone could just be allowed to make that on your own? That's probably actually best. Nevermind what I said above lol. But I'm gonna leave it so my thought process is understood.