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On the one hand I think it is a good idea. On the other I think that if it's because (theoretically, see below) the problem is that a pronoun isn't on the list it should be added. If the 2 pronouns max limit is a problem, then it should be increased.
I do understand that in your case it is because of your "Any pronouns but he/they", which is difficult to have in the (display) name.
maybe having "any except " as a gender in list one and then you pick whatever not-one in list two? i do think it gets rapidly way too complicated to be concise about and being (relatively, i suppose, are you the longest list?) concise about it like the way we have now is important for people reliably seeing and using our pronouns.
on the other hand, having the not-pronoun next to the name might have people using it because they see that and don't parse the negation and that could be a bad day for folks.
A better alternate phrasing might be "do NOT call me", but it still opens up the possibility of "sorry, I just misread it" as an excuse I worry.
Both those things should be done, too. Really, more should be done to make people aware of how new pronouns are added, or how one can have more than two sets of pronouns in one's display name.