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So, for poppers, depends on what country youre in. Tbh I just bought cheapo shit at I think a gas station? Its been so long I dont remember, I dont really use them anymore.

For the crotch tie, first off you MUST have safety shears on hand. They are not optional if youre doing bondage. For the crotch rope tie you'll need a ~15ft length of rope. Dont use dynamic rope, use static rope thats made for bondage. Cotton is very soft. Hemp is rougher, jute is quite rough. For this kind of thing where its long wear and not for a scene, I use cotton rope for comfort. Hemp is reallllyyyy nice but gets a bit rough after a few hours (last time I did this I had the tie on for about 3 hours, adjusting as needed for circulation. It was uhhhh very fun )

I found this link but it isnt quite what I do so I'll describe below how I do it: https://www.shibariacademy.com/pages/simple-waist-harness-shibari-academy

So I do basically the above, but instead of tieing at the back, I pull it back between my legs a second time and secure it at the front, so I am able to cinch it down at will (did I mention safety shears are not optional?). It also means less fiddling about behind my back where I can't see, which is helpful for when I'm on my own. Also also I find it quite nice cause I can get a dildo in me, and then cinch down easily to push it further in to me. Also also also, the first time going between your legs, tie some overhands in the rope. If you position them right, this can hold a magic wand against the dildo and A) push it further in when you cinch down, and B) vibrate till youre a sloppy thoughtless mess.

If youre doing this its a good idea to use a dildo with a flared base so it doesn't accidentally slip all the way in