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I am getting offended on this kind of messages, am I overreacting? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by someacnt@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I got this comment as a reply to my post:

You can get a job and do your math, too.
Other people do more with less, why can't you?
Answer:
spoilerGreed and entitlement.

I feel quite offended, that I have to care about someone else who "do more with less". What does it have to do with greed? I do not get the thought process behind it.

I wonder if I am overreacting. I would feel better if they just said to get a job, but it felt more like they are trying to make fun of me.

EDIT: Thanks everyone for thoughtful replies! Now I feel a lot better - I was in very bad mood when I got the reply above, so I felt even more attacked. Still, I should learn to not get overly offended like this.

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[–] starlinguk@lemmy.world 7 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I've never met either. Then again, I'm not in the US. A PhD is always done in conjunction with a job. And I don't mean waitressing, I mean your PhD work is incorporated in your job.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

most phd stipends don't cover the cost of living. especially with the massive inflation of the past decade...

i gave up my PhD studies because my stipent was about $10,000 per year less than the basic cost of living. It was basically designed for wealthy people. and the employment opportunities were low paying and scarce. it made zero sense.

until i realize phd programs are largely designed for/by wealthy people and purposefully setup to exclude working-class people like myself. it was classism in action. didn't help how 'mortified' all my peers when they found out how i grew up...

That sounds better. My friend is working in their field, but the positions are set up knowing that they’ll mostly be applied for by PhD students with masters degrees during their coursework, so they know they can pay like crap and they’ll take it anyway. All my understanding of these systems come from the US way, so it’s nice to know it’s better elsewhere.

[–] TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 4 months ago

That sounds better. My friend is working in their field, but the positions are set up knowing that they'll mostly be applied for by PhD students with masters degrees during their coursework, so they know they can pay like crap and they'll take it anyway. All my understanding of these systems come from the US way, so it's nice to know it's better elsewhere.