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I thought it was weird they were implying femboys can't be straight, so I went to investigate. What they mean is that men who identify as heterosexual are finding themselves attracted to femboys and intentionally seeking pornography featuring them.
https://archive.ph/Ok7z0
I'm more confident than ever in my hypothesis that bi/pan is secretly the most common sexuality.
So the headlines could read
" _stright_men are in femboys according to recent survey"
I think it's a bit of a double entendre, because it's also referencing this specific part of the report:
So "straight" guys are "out" as a gay porn category and femboys are "in".
Oh no, so the gays are turning straighter??
/s
Iirc only about 10% on either end are fully gay or straight, with the other 80% having various shades of m-spec sexualities.
Then you add kink/shame/taboo to the mix.
And we also consider that many of these people are Pavlov training themselves to be aroused by their own pheromones in their goon caves in the absence of the complete sensory experience of sex.
So I don't think that's what the article was going for (see melmi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 's reply), but also yes.
I consider myself straight and for the most part normal for a 20-something guy.
So far, I've only ever dated women, however I certainly consider some femboys to be very cute and I wouldn't inherently be opposed to dating one. While I'm not attracted to penises, and I'm certainly not attracted to masculine men, some femboys are absolutely "feminine enough" that I do find them attractive.
I was only replying to
This is healthy.
Gynosexuality is the name for it.
In many ancient societies, being bi was the norm. Like it was actually considered close minded to be straight or gay.
Obviously this isn’t proof but I have it memorized so I’m gonna spout it off anyway, there’s a scene in doctor who where a lesbian companion gets hit on by a Roman centurion, he tells her “oh. Well I’m just normal. You know, guys and girls. But that’s okay [other centurion] is like that too.”
The romens has house husbands for a reason. Pretty men are pretty.
Ehh we didnt need no study for that. Think about how it always turns out that rich and powerfull people are bi or gay. Hell, the us president is one of them.
A lot of people are mono under duress.
i've considered that being bi helps with forging political alliances ... so there's an evolutionary advantage to it.