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[–] stray@pawb.social 142 points 1 week ago (8 children)

I thought it was weird they were implying femboys can't be straight, so I went to investigate. What they mean is that men who identify as heterosexual are finding themselves attracted to femboys and intentionally seeking pornography featuring them.

https://archive.ph/Ok7z0

I'm more confident than ever in my hypothesis that bi/pan is secretly the most common sexuality.

[–] Atlusb@lemmy.world 54 points 1 week ago

So the headlines could read

" _stright_men are in femboys according to recent survey"

[–] melmi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 34 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I think it's a bit of a double entendre, because it's also referencing this specific part of the report:

As the stock of “femboys” rose, the fate of porn featuring “straight” guy porn has fallen. Searches for “straight” on PornhubGay tumbled nine spots to 19th place, just above “cruising” and two spots below “cute femboy.” (Notably, “straight guys first time” is still in the 6th spot, though it was knocked out of the top five.)

So "straight" guys are "out" as a gay porn category and femboys are "in".

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[–] JennyLaFae@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Iirc only about 10% on either end are fully gay or straight, with the other 80% having various shades of m-spec sexualities.

Then you add kink/shame/taboo to the mix.

And we also consider that many of these people are Pavlov training themselves to be aroused by their own pheromones in their goon caves in the absence of the complete sensory experience of sex.

[–] Clearwater@lemmy.world 17 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

So I don't think that's what the article was going for (see melmi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 's reply), but also yes.

I consider myself straight and for the most part normal for a 20-something guy.

So far, I've only ever dated women, however I certainly consider some femboys to be very cute and I wouldn't inherently be opposed to dating one. While I'm not attracted to penises, and I'm certainly not attracted to masculine men, some femboys are absolutely "feminine enough" that I do find them attractive.

[–] JennyLaFae@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 week ago

I was only replying to

I'm more confident than ever in my hypothesis that bi/pan is secretly the most common sexuality.

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[–] JustAnotherKay@lemmy.world 19 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I’m more confident than ever that bi/pan is secretly the most common sexuality.

In many ancient societies, being bi was the norm. Like it was actually considered close minded to be straight or gay.

Obviously this isn’t proof but I have it memorized so I’m gonna spout it off anyway, there’s a scene in doctor who where a lesbian companion gets hit on by a Roman centurion, he tells her “oh. Well I’m just normal. You know, guys and girls. But that’s okay [other centurion] is like that too.”

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[–] Beebabe@lemmy.world 74 points 1 week ago (8 children)

Meanwhile my taste In women: muscle mommies.

Please explain.

[–] Xenny@lemmy.world 92 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I think humanity just gets bored and wants what isn't immediately in front of us. We're bored of muscly men and tiny women so we want some tiny men and muscly women now. Makes sense to me.

[–] njm1314@lemmy.world 26 points 1 week ago

There's a reason the calf used to be seen as one of the most attractive parts of a person. Women wore long dresses and Men wore long pants.

[–] eyes@lemmy.world 30 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Femboys can enjoy muscle mommies.

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[–] jh6AZStb@lemmy.ml 28 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Im mega drunk right now but I feel like at this point whatever you like is fine and great just e mjoy it how gives a fuck how does any of this make any sense? I hate these arbitrary thresholds fembois muscle mommies whatever love is love and enjoyment is enjoyment just be yourself I love all of you for who you are I wish all humanity was as open and encompassing as all of you

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 1 week ago

Not mega drunk and can confirm what you said inshallah sibling 🙏 have a great night

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[–] baines@lemmy.cafe 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

republican states are banning pornhub

the demographic down bad enough in these states to bypass the bans have a type

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[–] thefluffiest@feddit.nl 6 points 1 week ago

You’re just avant-garde

Muscle mommies are hot, what else is there to explain?

It's the usual bisexual dilemma: "Look how smoll he is! And look how tall she is!"

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[–] kelpie_returns@lemmy.world 58 points 1 week ago

Finally, the world begins to heal

[–] mika_mika@lemmy.world 44 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I'm a fluid non-binary individual and all I can do is laugh at how absolute gendered folks handle explaining the near circle venn diagram that is femboys/transfems when it comes to sexual attraction. 🤭

[–] BanMe@lemmy.world 50 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (4 children)

I'm mentoring a femboy in our queer nonprofit, he came to our board retreat and got adorably flustered trying to explain to the group "why wouldn't you want to look like what you're attracted to?"

I've offered to build him a Linux box but he says "not yet."

[–] verdare@piefed.blahaj.zone 27 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I’ve offered to build him a Linux box but he says “not yet”

One of us. One of us…

“why wouldn’t you want to look like what you’re attracted to?”

be the woman you want to see in the world

[–] InevitableWaffles@midwest.social 9 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Are you going to offer the kneehigh socks or let them pick when you bring the Linux box over? 🤣

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[–] PearOfJudes@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 week ago

I mean pan/bi people also kind of don't care either

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[–] Star@lemmy.blahaj.zone 35 points 1 week ago (1 children)
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[–] zaphod@sopuli.xyz 32 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yes, femboys are in... my bed.

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[–] LodeMike@lemmy.today 30 points 1 week ago (1 children)

So the person in that photo got an OnlyFans or?..

[–] JayDee 18 points 1 week ago

Nonono I'm pretty sure that's the article author, Matthew Rodriguez. /s

but maybe.

[–] Una@europe.pub 23 points 1 week ago

HELL YEAH :3

[–] dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world 23 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Not that I disagree, or even have the data to see what's really going on here, but... okay, look. Men have a place in porn. That said, IMO, nothing kills the vibe faster than some dude with the build and charisma of a wet potato sack. Aesthetics reign supreme here and yeah, pretty guys are out there crushing it.

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[–] alottachairs@beehaw.org 22 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Okay so I've been thinking of being more feminine myself. I've started painting my nails and Im really feeling that direction. But I don't want to attract strait men (ew gross). How to be fem boy but attract female or other fem boy?

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 1 week ago (2 children)

This may shock you, but women are into femboys.

[–] IndieSpren@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 week ago

can confirm

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[–] deviantfemboi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

more women want to date me now because i present as a femboy. it's hilarious, but understandable. they feel safer around me generally and appreciate makeup/style choices and my higher attention on emotions which i learned through the queer community.

[–] WoodScientist@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

I mean, it's a pretty effective filter. Someone who paints their nails and wears women's clothes from time to time is at the very least unlikely to be some misogynistic asshole. I'm sure there are some exceptions, but as a general rule, it's a good simple filter.

[–] PearOfJudes@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I wouldn't not dress/style yourself more feminine because you don't want to attract straight men.

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[–] scoobford@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My best advice is not to worry about it. Everyone likes femboys, so you just decline any invitations you receive from men in the same way you would decline unwanted advances from a woman/enby/etc. you find unattractive.

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[–] Wren@lemmy.today 15 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

My kingdom for a dominant femboy. I need a body that can rock booty shorts and pigtails, with the personality of Magneto.

[–] Gebruikersnaam@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 week ago

As a dominant transfem: send the subby ones to me >:]

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[–] Rozauhtuno@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 1 week ago

Nature is healing.

[–] jaschen306@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 week ago (7 children)

Why isn't the opposite called Mengirls?

[–] Pulptastic@midwest.social 14 points 1 week ago (3 children)
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[–] Hoimo@ani.social 12 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I think the opposite is tomboys and it's the older word that femboy is based on? But don't quote me on that until I've checked en etymylogicimist.

Edit: ok, can't find any sources to back this up, but tomboy is older and in a similar semantic space, so I'm still willing to claim that it was at least the inspiration for the shape of the word.

[–] scoobford@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

If femboy is feminine boy, then it should be masc girl. Which lesbians call them mascs a lot so...I guess they are?

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[–] HurricaneLiz@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago

I know I love my femboy 💜💜💜

[–] melsaskca@lemmy.ca 12 points 1 week ago

So human types are just like seasonal paint colours? Who will be in style next? One thing is for sure...they'll all be wearing Blundstone boots.

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago
[–] paris@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 week ago

hunnypaint on the cover :D

[–] trslim@pawb.social 5 points 1 week ago

FUCKING BASED MY PEOPLE ARE SO IN

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