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I'll go first. My ex cheated on me with a dude, (I'm les, she's bi,) brought home chlamydia and bed bugs, then after 13 years of no contact, texts me randomly to try and pull me into an MLM pyramid scheme.

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[–] dkppunk@lemmy.world 39 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Lazy ass hobosexeual played the part of a caring partner for 2 years. He was in someone else’s bed whenever I wasn’t home at night, I worked the night shift so that was pretty much every night. I was constantly exhausted after working 12-14 hour shifts all the time, so I asked him to get a job or do anything to bring money in. He didn’t want to so he found some lady who made more than me to take his lazy ass in. I (sadly) begged him to stay and kept in touch.

One day, he came over to help me fix my brakes and tried to kiss me. I turned my check because fuck that noise. He had the BIGGEST crocodile tears I’ve ever seen in someone over the age of 5. Told me that he still loved me, just wanted to feel like I wanted him there (me begging wasn’t enough I guess), said he didn’t love her, she had “gross fake tits”, said he only cared about her money and her boat he was living on, said he had to sleep in his car when HE left because he had nowhere to go, blah blah blah. I told him to leave and then I found her on Facebook. I told her everything he had just told me. That dumbass still went on to marry his lazy ass and he still doesn’t work.

That’s ok though, my current partner of 10+ years is a massive improvement. He’s not an alcoholic and he has a job, so I won that one 😁

Also. Fuck you Levi.

[–] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 5 days ago (3 children)

Hobosexual?! Sounds classist if you ask me.

[–] krooklochurm@lemmy.ca 13 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I thought this was funny.

You don't deserve the downvotes.

Also I'm REALLY failing to understand how someone could not understand that this was a joke. For the love of god.

[–] dkppunk@piefed.social 5 points 5 days ago

I didn’t catch that it was a joke, I thought it was a misunderstanding or person legit thought it was a typo, but I also don’t think it deserved downvotes.

[–] Twinklebreeze@lemmy.world 18 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Is this a joke, or are you just insufferable?

[–] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 5 days ago

It was a joke, calm down

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 15 points 5 days ago (1 children)
[–] Twinklebreeze@lemmy.world 9 points 5 days ago (1 children)
[–] Hupf@feddit.org 4 points 5 days ago

Your updoots, Sir

[–] dkppunk@lemmy.world 12 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Sorry, no, that’s not what it means. It’s a word that refers to someone who mooches off of their partner because they don't want to work. That guy was just an ass.

[–] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Never heard the term before. I assumed it was a typo

[–] dkppunk@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago

That makes sense, I could totally see that as a typo

[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Yeah but I always thought the hobosexual was the sucker. Like I'm a hobosexual because I prefer a domestic house husband but it's difficult to find a man who isn't just saying he's one as a ruse for wanting to do 0 work, domestic or otherwise.

[–] dkppunk@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

I’ve always heard it used to describe the lazy person, but I guess there are multiple definitions. I used it referring to this definition: A hobosexual is someone who dates for housing, not love

I think people having a discussion and agreeing that one person stays home while the other works is completely fine. That’s not what my situation was, he worked, then he didn’t, then he refused to.

[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 2 points 5 days ago

that's been my position several times as well unfortunately. like I said, lots of men say that's what they're gonna do, then they actually get there and realize domesticity is actually a legit job and they don't really wanna do that either.