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"It's not a principle if it doesn't cost you anything"

Also just curious about your deeply held principles in general.

No political grandstanding please.

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[–] Snapz@lemmy.world 9 points 4 days ago (3 children)

My wife, thinking I'm too careful with our child.

I think I'm (objectively) fairly balanced, maybe leaning towards careful, sure. But really I just want the baby to grow to the point of being able to walk without involuntary nose dives with both eyeballs still intact.

Yes, I think it's too much for the baby to be allowed to run around with that actual kitchen tool in hand. Yes I know the baby loves it, but it's essentially a metal rod. Constantly derails an otherwise good day to speak up, but here to on the baby's behalf.

[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 5 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

with both eyeballs still intact.

That's something you rather need watch out between 5 and 15 years.

And flower pots are dangerous btw.

[–] Snapz@lemmy.world 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Feels as if there is a particular flower pot that you have history with?

[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Me and my sis both barely missed the eye as a child. Always some big clay pot.

[–] Bazoogle@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

You should check out the Coddling of the American Mind by Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff. While it's one thing when they are a literal infant, as they become a toddler and into early childhood there will be things they should be doing on their own that will more than likely injure themselves. In order to grow and develop they need risk. The problem with risk is that sometimes they will sometimes get hurt. However it's the only way they can truly learn and grow, and it's also why they have rubber bones.

[–] Snapz@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

I appreciate the suggestion, I'll look into it. That said, im a firm believer in the schools of thought around calculated risk. Letting them fall sure, but into a somewhat safe or even lightly padded area - enough to feel the shock and some light pain that is informative in teaching them to be more careful and internally weigh potential risk against their future actions, but also avoiding said threat to life and limb.

Personally, I'm of the mind that a lot of the "just let them fall" theory is more to soothe the guilt of the parents and many of those "walk it off" kids had multiple TBIs and grew up to be one eyed, nine toed, frontal lobe damaged trump voters.

[–] Fiery@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Obviously the solution is to put the baby in full biker gear, including a helmet.

[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 2 points 4 days ago

Baby Platemail.