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2 reasons. Firstly I'm just extra shit at buying presents. I like to think I'm generous and thoughtful but I just don't get "presents". Like everyone works and buys the things that they want.
What the fuck is the point of a gift card? "oh I know you like buying things so here's a card which will allow you to buy a selection of things from one or more specific vendors who I assume you regularly shop at."
This has gotten a bit easier as I've gotten older and a bit more financially stable so not so restricted on price I guess. This year in August I saw these great massage guns on sale for half price so I just bought 6 of them to dish out for Christmas presents.
The other is forced social arrangements. Just today my partner said I'm going to this thing for Christmas lunch tomorrow. I said I'm not. She insisted. I didn't respond.
I don't want to be an asshole partner who doesn't go anywhere but... I feel like the only reason she wants me to go is because that's what normal people do. Like lets go to this thing full of people you hate and pretend to be happy and normal. I only have to stick it out for 2 hours so will see how that's going tomorrow.
Go and fake it if you want to keep her. It sucks and it's exhausting but I fucked up my life being honest about these things.