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I'm just wondering, no particular reason.

Did you find a partner using it? How long did you use it? What did you think about it? How many matches did you get? What problems did you see? Do you think its a good way to meet other people? What did you use it for / what was your intention?

Just in general, what was the experience like?

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[–] reksas@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 day ago

My experience: its scourge and a scam.

If you live somewhere with less than millions of people, pool of viable matches is likely so small there is just no point. And if you dont want to pay money, its even more waste of your time.

I doubt its much better for females either, though they likely have opposite problem; have to pick the right one out of sea of shit and hope they dont accidentally choose someone who they really dont want to choose.

All in all, dating apps just damage natural partner finding system and should be banned.

For me, i really lucked out and found someone without having to use one. I did try several application for some time and its just like drinking saltwater when you need water. Definitely not worth using any of them, you just waste your time and might delude yourself that you might find someone by using them when you should instead try other things, thus actively preventing yourself from finding anyone.