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Things that helped;
What I'm still working on;
porn addiction is probably hard, there are forums out there usually about porn-induced ED that may give insight.
I'm not trying to give up as well, just want to reduce it. I did try a four week break from it (made it to 2 weeks) and it did reduce the amount of time I spent on it from that point forward. So I might have to do another one of those.
The more I read, the more this sounds like toxic productivity. It’s okay to have downtime. It’s okay to just relax. It’s okay to have hobbies that aren’t entirely focused on health or mental wellbeing. It’s okay to occasionally indulge hedonic tendencies like porn. Hell, most doctors say that jorkin it a few times a week helps keep things healthy.
Maintaining this kind of lifestyle will likely result in burnout sooner or later.
What part of all this is toxic? Who said I don't have hedonistic tendencies?
I watch porn. I just waste several hours a week on it. Trust me, I'm going to keep watching porn. I just want to timeblock it a little better, improving my relationship with it.
Which ones exactly do you think contribute to burnout? Because as I read through it, I can't think of a single one that does. Maybe journaling if you do it every single day (I don't).
It's okay to work on yourself too. Nothing toxic about anything they said. Stop trying to discourage people from working on themselves.