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Enabling Grayscale mode >

It instantly breaks the "dopamine loop" of social media apps. It makes your phone feel like a tool rather than a toy. And it helps with eye strain and extends battery life.

10/10 would recommend.

I got a longer USB cable.

Delete Facebook and twitter

Knives that don't suck. Also getting chickens. I love them so much, great pets and they lay eggs :)

Eating breakfast every day.

My eating habits were so dysfunctional that I can only describe them as a disorder. It affected all areas of my life, from sleep to energy to mood. I didn't know the core problem was my eating habits, all of my problems just meshed together.

One evening I decided that my only goal for the next day was to eat breakfast. Not lunch, not dinner, not go to the gym, not get any work done or change the world. Just eat something when I wake up. I made a beautiful baguette stuffed with everything delicious and placed it by the bed before going to sleep, so I didn't even have to get out of bed to achieve my goal.

Once I got my breakfast, I automatically got lunch and dinner too. Lots of other habits naturally fell into place when I wasn't starving.

That as 15 years ago. I've not missed breakfast since. I've still got tons of issues. But this one, tiny thing, made a massive positive difference.

Things that helped;

• Blocking Lemmy and Reddit on my phone, and limiting time browsing the News
• Delete social media apps from the phone
• Switching from diet sodas to just cold water
• Reducing coffee from 4 a day to 0-1 a day
• Get diagnosed for ADHD and get on Vyvanse
• Eat high fibre, starting the day with oats/fibre
• Meditating
• Journaling, with weekly review of how I progressed towards my goals
• Cutting back on smoking weed to once every other month

What I'm still working on;

• Cut down on time browsing porn. I'll probably binge porn for an afternoon once a week or two. Still too much.
• Consistency in the gym. I've had a lot of life altering events happen recently, so I'm trying to get back on the ball.
• Just vegging out on the computer while at home. I should be doing things like writing, reading, or exercise. But instead I sit here and type out long comments while my meds kick in. :)

Getting a dog. Also the most value for my money I've ever gotten for any purchase in my life.

Quitting Facebook. The decision was somewhat pushed for me after Mark banned me for "inciting hatred", I kept sharing a gif of a nazi getting knocked out.

Eating healthier and lightly working out.

Going vegan, kicking my religion/faith to the curb, leaving my abusive marriage, injecting estrogen.

Some pretty fun years.

Blood pressure medication.

Was high for years. doctor said we should do this or you should get healthy.

I kept 'getting healthy' for years

walking up the steps was pain, knees where pain, i'm like jesus i'm just getting old.

new doctor: you need to stop fucking around and get the meds.

me: ok

i took the meds, 3 days in.... I run up the steps like I was 20 years younger.

HOLY FUCK, why the ever-loving hell didn't I do this before?

LASIK.

I was scared of the procedure. What if it messed up and now I had permanent eye damage???

In reality, it took like 15 minutes and now I can see in the morning, ditch the whole contact lens daily ritual, and (most importantly to me) wear fun sunglasses right off the rack.

If you’re thinking about it, just do it. I wish I had done it WAY sooner.

Got away from my family.

Getting back into bicycling as an adult. I've always struggled to keep active as I don't care for sports and gyms are unpleasant enough that I really can only use them for the weights, and I only do when my apartment has a gym included. But yeah, I tried getting into running because I needed cardio, but I fucking hated it. So I bought a bike and it turns out I love that thing. It's fun to fix up and mess with, and I'm happy to ride it as long as my body, the weather, and my schedule let me. I've spent months where unless I had other plans every weekday was: work, eat dinner quickly, then bike until it's too dark to do so. I even managed to get my wife into it.

I just feel better when I bike regularly. Physically and mentally. Also it gave me killer legs and an ass to die for. And it got me in touch with the bicycle anarchists where I used to live, which it turns out is a huge thing across America and they're consistently in my experience some of thd best of both categories of people. They're fun, they're doing something other than activism to self destruction with an alcohol intake to match, and they're the sort of people who look at an old pile of gears and see a way for a neighbor to get to work or get in shape.

Linux

Being gay³

Having boundaries

Thinking of myself as attractive

Accepting that a lot of advice is bad advice and that a lot of people are confidently incorrect AND heavily damaged

Accepting myself

Deciding to continue to actively try to be a better person

Learn about psychology

Going back to school

Stopping painting

Smiling more

Actually learning how to stretch

Getting a mini split heat pump system

Cut contact with family and friends who were bad for my mental health.

Having money.

No but seriously, nothing even comes close.

Started getting all my chores done early and day drinking on Sundays. Probably not healthy long term but fuck it, the world is on fire and I'm not going to be stressed out all the time.

Eat less and healthier, do lots of sports -> lose weight.

At some point in university I started to eat too much and excercise way too little. There were no "real" reasons. It started somehow and I lost control. So for ~the first half of my 20s I was very overweight. To the point that I was ashamed of my body so I avoided situations in which my weight was obvious even more.

Gladly I was able to turn that around at some point and only then there where comments concerning my weight. (Some congratulatory and some concerned that I was becomming too thin now).

I'm almost 40 now and miiight do to much sports, but I think I found a healthy balance, don't have backpain anymore and am rarely sick.

If I had found the strenght / inspiration sooner, I wouldn't have "lost" quite as much time as I did.

Good Chair, good mattress, the right pillow, no sugar consumption, vegetarian diet,

Lifting weights.

Started poisoning people I don't like.

Being more playful. Find more things to laugh and smile about.

Tap into my inner child, getting back into the things I loved as a child because I am a kidult with free will.

Sleep with stuffed animals and taking a plushie with me when I go out, despite what people may think.

Look for glimmer moments in my day.

The world is a hot pile of shitty dumpster fire, but I won't let it take away my smile and wonder and laughter. I will be happy in spite of the world

• going to bed before 12
• keeping distance from toxic relationships
• regular outdoor activities
• making an effort with my interior decoration
• a proper budget planner (YNAB)
• cooking

Adderall. Started taking it at 34 and ever since I can prioritize tasks, finish things, relax...

Lexapro and a bidet

I've been using a height adjustable standing desk for 2-3 years now. The option to switch between sitting and standing was a major improvement. It's obviously not a replacement to active movement and I'm looking forward to get a walking pad soon. But I'm glad I even went this direction.

I stopped eating meat for the most part (aka: flexiatarian).

Go for more walks and eat less meat and tell me you don’t feel better!

Sleep schedule!

Stop drinking alcohol and eating meat.

Asking that my doctor take the symptoms in my sinuses more seriously.