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It wasn't necessarily a struggle but my younger interlocutor was shocked by the fact that back in the late 90s/early 00s when I was a kid/young teen, not everyone had a cellphone and that, if you wanted to talk to that cutie who wasn't online on MSN Messenger, sometimes you had to call her landline and her dad or mom or sibling would answer and you'd have to talk to them for a bit before they passed her the phone. If men feel socially awkward nowadays flirting with girls in private, imagine having to charm her parents before being able to do the same with her! π
Honestly in my experience charming parents is easy lol, but i guess that means people had to strike more of a balance between being a "respectable young man" (to charm the parents) and "not a total dork" (to charm the lady in question) - The lack of this social balance is why society is collapsing !
I think this comes down to a quirk of personality.
I have always charmed parents even though Iβm somewhat rough around the edges (probably partially because my mom died when I was young and older women still see me as a little lost lamb who needs mothering in my thirties), but my best friend near universally turns parents off, even though weβre pretty similar.
When we were younger, everyone thought she was a bad influence on me, though it was probably the other way around.
Haha if you were not a complete menace (or at least didn't sound like one), I guess to a certain extent they found it cute? Good times! π₯²
What's MSN messenger, precious? Love, eighties teenager.
The OG way to chat with qts online!
The OG way is IRC, though.