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Nebraska had no age limit for a bit. Guy dropped off 9 of his 10 kids(1 was 18) cause he felt overwhelmed after his wife died a year earlier.
That actually kind of makes sense? I mean, dropping off teens is excessive, but maybe it highlights an issue? Overwhelmed parents of teenagers isn't something I had on my list of people that need more help, at least.
That is surprisingly kind for a Nebraskan legislator. Isn't NE one of the states where they'd rather let women die than abort a fetus?
No, they'd rather let the mother die and get a free child prostitute out of her than to abort a fetus.
I'm more concerned how he had ten kids and then felt overwhelmed when his wife left him. Like what the fuck?!
Grieving for a partner definitely doesn't make it easier to raise your children?!
And I've not met many men with 10 kids who are super into doing the whole "dividing the labor of parenting evenly" thing, and I went to catholic schools, I knew some big families. And even if he had been the type to do that, you aren't winding up being the breadwinner for a family with 10 kids and having both low stress finances and a low stress job. So adding in lots of extra home duties and possibly reduced financial capabilities and mourning will probably wreck you.
That said, I've never met a family that large where the parents kept actually parenting beyond number 3 or 4. Some of the most horrifically parentified people I ever met were middle daughters of large families. Also the kids are struggling too, and each of them is likely to have taken some lasting psychic damage from being abandoned by their dad, even temporarily, shortly after their mom died.
Died, not left.
And likely yeah, someone would get overwhelmed doing two peoples' jobs.
Because he didn't do Jack raising them probably
Or doubling the responsibilities was too much.
Double it and pass it to the next person
If doubling was to much, it would have been enough to "only" drop 4-5
As long as we are doing hypothetical, he may have been working long hours to pay for all the costs while she was stay at home. When she died, working all the time and trying to care for kids and grieving is going to be massively stressful. Bot to mention the aunt for 7 of the kids decided to have a custody battle so lots and lots of possible things leading to being overwhelmed.
But you clearly assume he is a deadbeat because he's a man. Have fun with that.
What has him being a man to do with all that
Would you have assumed the same lack of parenting if the father had died and the mother dropped off the kids?
I don't think there is enough background story to think the mother would have been a much better parent, giving up ALL children
The fact that you can claim you need more information if it was a gender reversal, is exactly what they were pointing out.
Not exactly. They're basically saying that both genders would be bad parents by default for giving up all of their kids unless there was evidence of a compelling reason to think otherwise.
10 kids jfc
I guess it highlights why there should be no age limit… the response to introduce an age limit of 30 days certainly is not the right one.
Wtf! That is insane 🤣 good read!