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With only 1% trans, I think if we're just willing to ACCEPT when they tell us we got it wrong, apologize and leave it at that, that would be enough.
Is it possible that any of them ever got it wrong?
The amount of people who detransition is incredibly small compared to the overall trans population, and even then most people detransition because society didn't accept them and battered them down until they gave up.
I take that as a yes, people can be wrong about themselves and who they think they are.
People can be wrong about literally anything. That is not an excuse to say "fuck everyone else in this group."
If you extend this argument, we shouldn't believe what anyone tells us about absolutely anything because they might have made a mistake. Truly a great basis for human society.
Why would you presume that questioning someone's beliefs would mandate to treat them like shit? What a bizarre worldview. Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness and respect, whatever they believe.
But your beliefs about the world do not dictate my beliefs about the world. That is surely not a hard concept to grasp?
"Wrong" is probably not the best term for it. People's understanding of their own identity can evolve over time, but their own assessment of their sense of self will always be the most accurate barometer to go by. Yes, some people detransition, but as others have stated they're a small minority and ultimately that's their decision to make whether it's due to a change in how they identify or pressure from external forces.
But to the original commenter's point, we should just allow people to be the masters of their own identity and meet them where they are at any given point. If that were the case, the idea of getting it "wrong" wouldn't be a big deal at all, they could simply give us an update and the world keeps turning.
I think you have your numbers confused. The right wants to reduce trans numbers to 0%. The left doesn't care about increasing numbers, only treating trans people like human beings.
Everyone should be treated with kindness and respect regardless of who they are, what they look like, where they are from, and what they believe.
That does not mean that everyone has to accept whatever beliefs anybody else personally has. Everyone is free to believe what they want. That means that it is both fine to believe something about oneself, and fine not to believe what someone else believes about themselves.
Edit: A downvote. Huh! I didn't think someone would disagree that everyone should be treated with kindness and respect and have the right to determine for themselves what they believe. Must be a transphobe.
Then can you, please, extend your respect and kindness to not indulge the actual transphobic misinformation there? As well as not stoking the flames over a single downvote? This shit is derailing the fun thread.
You accuse me of phobia. I am not phobic in the slightest. My sister is in a loving relationship with her girlfriend since ten years back, and my little brother is literally trans.
Please do not throw out frivolous accusations just because you have your ideas challenged, it is a vile practice and only outs you as dogmatic.
No, I don't. That was referring to the parent post.
Thanks for the lesson in not engaging in arguments unless absolutely necessary. What a fucking shit show.
Pretty sure they're actually a bot given that they nearly instantly reply and they've replied to almost every top-level comment in this thread.
If not, they're just a total shithead tbh given that they talk about homosexuality being a choice elsewhere.
Thanks for the heads up. That's good to know.
You replied to me. I support equal rights and humane treatment for everyone, I simply reject the idea that your beliefs require me to surrender my own judgments about reality.
I have not been offensive in any way, you are the one resorting to domination techniques and accusations and emotional outbursts. If you don't want to accept other people's beliefs you can always just move along.
I guess you'd be fine if everyone treated you as a lizard and required you to live and act like a lizard. It's all good because you know you're not, right?
Well, people very often treat me as something I am not. They don't know me. I don't know me. Being human is hard. Knowing something about oneself is a very complicated proposition. Knowing something about others is even harder. What does it mean to "know oneself"? How can I expect others to know who and what I am if I can't be certain myself?
If people thought I was a lizard I would question their sanity, for sure. Nobody in their right mind mistakes a person for a lizard. That is just crazy.
they do?
If that means more people have a voice, then I'm all for it.