I think it would be more interesting if you could change at will. Wake up and pick your gender line you pick your outfit for the day.
this post was submitted on 01 Mar 2026
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With only 1% trans, I think if we're just willing to ACCEPT when they tell us we got it wrong, apologize and leave it at that, that would be enough.
Is it possible that any of them ever got it wrong?
"Wrong" is probably not the best term for it. People's understanding of their own identity can evolve over time, but their own assessment of their sense of self will always be the most accurate barometer to go by. Yes, some people detransition, but as others have stated they're a small minority and ultimately that's their decision to make whether it's due to a change in how they identify or pressure from external forces.
But to the original commenter's point, we should just allow people to be the masters of their own identity and meet them where they are at any given point. If that were the case, the idea of getting it "wrong" wouldn't be a big deal at all, they could simply give us an update and the world keeps turning.
The amount of people who detransition is incredibly small compared to the overall trans population, and even then most people detransition because society didn't accept them and battered them down until they gave up.
I take that as a yes, people can be wrong about themselves and who they think they are.
People can be wrong about literally anything. That is not an excuse to say "fuck everyone else in this group."
If you extend this argument, we shouldn't believe what anyone tells us about absolutely anything because they might have made a mistake. Truly a great basis for human society.
Why would you presume that questioning someone's beliefs would mandate to treat them like shit? What a bizarre worldview. Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness and respect, whatever they believe.
But your beliefs about the world do not dictate my beliefs about the world. That is surely not a hard concept to grasp?
Stop segregating by sex too, there's no reason to do that unless you need a penis to complete an activity.
That's pretty much how it already works. It's just that the pressure to make the "correct" choice is fucking crazy.
It's just that the pressure to make the "correct" choice is fucking crazy.
I feel pressured to only ever present as a cisgendered heterosexual person regardless of whether that's correct or not. The pressure is for LGBTQ+ people to simply disappear from public society. Correct has nothing to do with it.
For some of us we didn’t know there was a choice
For all of us we didn't know there was a choice, we were all infants at the time the choice was made. We were still figuring out which amorphous blob gives us the milk.
This is why others decide on sex for us through observation. That much is sensible enough, infants are not great at that kind of thing. But we're discovering more and more that this is an imperfect system and that more often than we realized the answer is not straight forward or in fact that our conclusions are sometimes incorrect even when it appears straight forward.
To say that transgenderism is a choice is to argue that it’s not a result of anomalous brain development, and is instead an ordinary delusion, no different than believing you’re Jesus Christ. Which implies than gender-affirming care is harmful.
I suspect that’s not what you meant.
Why would someone not be able to choose their gender. Gender is a social construct. Of course people can choose. People can choose to be gay too, if they want. People have free will, don't they? I mean by your logic, why wouldn't you believe someone telling you that they were Jesus Christ?
People can choose to be gay too, if they want.
If homosexuality were a choice, I’d make it.
Literally nothing is stopping you.
It's not really that it's a choice to not be cis, but yeah, we shouldn't assume people's gender at all imho until they tell us themselves (and as children can't tell us until they're older don't assume until they're older), and even when they do it shouldn't need to affect stereotypes or the way we grammatically refer to them or anything, just maybe what body they want to have and who can be attracted to them
Why would you trust anything someone says about themselves outright? What if they're crazy? What if they're lying? What if they're wrong? Is that impossible, or does every person on Earth have perfect knowledge of themselves and their true selves at all times, and always speak the truth?
Chaos.
Let's be real. Who would actually pick to have a penis?
Probably men
Penis vs periods. That's the ultimate battle.
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Can we do the blood type thing where like it's O-Type?
I would. Every single time the better choice by far.
How do you know you didn't and you just happened to guess wrong? Like you were like oh "seems cool" then your neurons grew in mismatched.
How do we know anything at all? How do we know that we're not all just living in an alien simulation and in fact are multidimensional dragons from some parallel universe?
This is what I'm saying! Maybe it's like that game from rick and Morty. 1% chance you get a brain tumor, 1% chance you just get put in the wrong body in some way or other cuz fuck you that's why.
See the problem with "identity" and what is "reality" and what things "are" or "are not" are profoundly complex philosophical questions that have been deeply, deeply thought about by the most brilliant minds of mankind since thousands of years, and they are yet to be solved.
That is why all claims about what something or someone "is" or "is not" is fraught with paradoxes that just collapse on themselves, and all claims to some sort of objective truth and finality are just fantasies.
What matters is to treat people with kindness and respect whoever they are. That's what I think. Doesn't mean we are obligated to believe whatever it is they believe. Everyone is free to believe what they want. That includes the right not to believe what someone else believes. That's what I believe.