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No.
Sex is both extremely complicated (it involves our most intimate selves, our deepest and most sincere desires) but it's also very simple at the same time: sex is a matter of agreement between two (or more) parties. They must be willing to have sex and are to agree on how the action will unfold. If no agreement can be reached, that's fine: there should be no sex. And if one party doesn't want to agree on something and still want to have sex, well, I would not call that 'sex' anymore.
As far as using a condom, it should be obvious for any adult male: when asked to wear one, you wear one. Or you don't have to enjoy the sex. Simple as that.
On a more personal note, as a dude myself (an old and happily married one, but still a dude) I would never have sex with someone 'I don't know that well' without wanting to wear one, no need to ask.
To this snarky (and abysmally stupid) remark, if I were in your shoes which I'm obviously not, I would have put my hand on his and replied 'Maybe I am?', smiling.