Ask Lemmy
A Fediverse community for open-ended, thought provoking questions
Rules: (interactive)
1) Be nice and; have fun
Doxxing, trolling, sealioning, racism, toxicity and dog-whistling are not welcomed in AskLemmy. Remember what your mother said: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. In addition, the site-wide Lemmy.world terms of service also apply here. Please familiarize yourself with them
2) All posts must end with a '?'
This is sort of like Jeopardy. Please phrase all post titles in the form of a proper question ending with ?
3) No spam
Please do not flood the community with nonsense. Actual suspected spammers will be banned on site. No astroturfing.
4) NSFW is okay, within reason
Just remember to tag posts with either a content warning or a [NSFW] tag. Overtly sexual posts are not allowed, please direct them to either !asklemmyafterdark@lemmy.world or !asklemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com.
NSFW comments should be restricted to posts tagged [NSFW].
5) This is not a support community.
It is not a place for 'how do I?', type questions.
If you have any questions regarding the site itself or would like to report a community, please direct them to Lemmy.world Support or email info@lemmy.world. For other questions check our partnered communities list, or use the search function.
6) No US Politics.
Please don't post about current US Politics. If you need to do this, try !politicaldiscussion@lemmy.world or !askusa@discuss.online
Reminder: The terms of service apply here too.
Partnered Communities:
Logo design credit goes to: tubbadu
view the rest of the comments
Condoms are a must with hookups.
In my wilder days I had a crazy friend, she was cool but she was way too wild, and I would intentionally not carry condoms so I could have an excuse to dip when she started taking stuff off. I stuck to my guns, no sex without protection. Surprised she didn't pull one out of her purse and offer it, knowing my rule.
Things could have gone sideways a couple different ways and, if I had the chance to do it all over, I'd just carry protection. I wouldn't throw down at the drop of a hat, but if it came down to it, I'd have more options. Then again, she's the kind of person who'd rip it off right at the end and force the issue, if that was something she wanted. So all in all it's better we drifted apart. I would not want her for a baby mama.
I won in the end, managed to make it to marriage without having sex (which I suppose matters less for a guy, but it was something I wanted to do), but I did engage in some risky behaviours when I was younger.