Ask Lemmy

Hi, please be kind with me. I'm feeling really vulnerable and conflicted about this. I would really appreciate any help or comfort.

I had a bit too much to drink and had unprotected sex with a guy who was sober and came on my back, but it also got on the bed. I was too out of it to remember the exact timing but he said there's no need to take plan B. I'm not on any birth control.

I've taken plan B twice before and read stories of how awful it is. I did feel very depressed and overwhelmed in the weeks after taking it, but that could also be explained by stressors that I was dealing with at the time. I'm worried about the side effects, especially considering this would be my third time taking it.

Should I take plan B? Can anyone who has taken it multiple times please share about the side effects and their experiences with it? Is the pull-out method less risky than I'm thinking it is, or is this not worth the gamble even if I didn't need Plan B? A pregnancy would be a huge disruption, and I don't even want to imagine it.

I'm also just feeling so lost, disoriented, and sad. I don't do well with casual intimacy, yet I find myself getting into these situations. What should I be doing differently? Is it just a matter of drinking less or is there something more underlying that I need to process? I've noticed an increase in unprotected sex recently which makes me feel even worse about it all.