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How do I stop a crush from developing further?
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In my experience, get to know the person, as a person. I see the crush as a separate entity from myself. The crush sees them as some unrealistic ideal superhuman, which falls apart when I take time to find out who the actual person is.
This assumes you have opportunities to casually chat without planning time specifically, or you can be in a regular part of group conversations.
Isn't getting to know someone better the exact same path you would take if you like them too?
Didn't hear any compelling reasons as to why an actual relationship would be bad. Having a relationship with an authority figure (teacher, doctor, therapist, etc) is taboo and often illegal, but if there's really a connection there it should be doable to change up schedules or find new instruction so there's no conflict anymore. Most of my crushes though have been very superficial and a few conversations dispelled the fantasy.
That's pretty damn well put.
There is maybe a tiny window. But it's worth a shot.
I had a crush and had this like, idea* of who they might be.
Got to know them more and more, and… they’re exactly the person my imagination fabricated.
Anyway, we’re married and shit now. I wish the same for every person with a crush.
that is the ideal way it works out. It's rare but awesome.