Oh, fuck, is that an ADHD symptom?
Every day I find out more and more of me is just mental illness
On the good side your family and friends start just not believing you when you say you're going to do this thing
On the bad side sometimes (so far exactly once for me) a friend will implement the idea you sketched that time and haven't done yourself, and they do it wrong
Best thing is, when you finally do do the thing, everyone is going to be surprised. And you can say that you did tell them that you would do it.
Ask me how I know.
I've actually heard a fairly common motivation tip is to not tell people when you've started a new project or healthy habit.
Some people believe that sharing the news with people is what ultimately gives you the feelgood chemicals, and then suddenly you have less desire to do the thing.
I don't think this is to say that you shouldn't share your accomplishments. In fact, if you struggle with perfectionism, you might never think that you're totally finished a project. But if you're in the tenuous first stages of a new activity, it might benefit you to wait until things are a little more concrete before sharing the fun stuff.
How did you just describe the downfall of every hobby I've ever tried.
I am trying really hard to get back into my practicing hobbies after a hiatus, because I want to get good, but I'm also struggling with the fact that, by the time I'm good, I won't be able to appreciate it because I'm aware of all the practice I put into it, and it becomes my normal.
I also struggle with committing years to something.
I heard and kinda do this exact thing based off a TED Talk from years ago.
It kinda works, until you need to start telling your manager wtf you're working on and how much progress you've made 🤦
“You let me look inside that box right now, Schrödinger!!”
🤓 sure thing, bub
And yet you've created this very Lemmy instance we're posting on. Curious.
so so SO many plans on the "back burner" its ludicrous
Everything on the back burner, nothing on the front burner
Front burner's all burned out, and the replacement hasn't arrived yet. 😔
Count yourself lucky. My front burner has become a secondary backburner and I've moved on to using a portable cooktop.
Back of the oven is gettin pretty crowded, I could use some more back burners
The trick is to tell no one and still do nothing! You get to keep the friends and the anxiety!
That's exactly what I did the day I realized people didn't react anymore whenever I told them the new thing I wanted to do, they just knew I wouldn't do shit in the end.
Still try and do the thing. Just don't tell anyone until it's done!
I believe in your book idea/code project/game concept/movie script!
No, I really don't need another bunch of money spent for a half finished project that I'm never going to finish or hobby that I'll never return to. It sounds bad but it truly is better for me to give up and not try, at least it doesn't continue piling failures on top of me.
Notice how all of mine were things for which little money is spent in the process. Lol.
what kinds of half finished projects do you have laying around, and what kind of hobbies are you never returning to?
You can also just shoot down your ideas as you speak them "but I would first need to clean that workspace, and that's impossible"
Except then I don't share anything with my friends and slowly lose them anyway because I'm boring.
Ha! my buddy asked me how my patent was coming along last night. Cringe.
When people tell me about a project and say, "oh, this took me 5 years to do" it just makes me think, "damn, so it'd take me 10 years to get something twice as bad as this?"
Just a tinge of RSD
fuck im being attacked! Doing this right this second and have for almost a whole year :(
just poppin to say hi! 🙋♂️
Literally me, unfortunately I have gaslit myself into thinking I'm just a lazy person. It's pretty fucked up
The lighter side of ADHD
