Casual fossil fuel use. Not work related shit, but asking me to drive an hour to you to chat because you won't learn discord is demoralizing. I know that it's not a big source of CO2, but it adds up and the same people who do it also throw food out, don't fix anything and don't demand more action from their politicians. They RP as revolutionaries, but don't do anything.
I loudly judge people for things that I think are morally wrong, but I would feel quite bad if I voiced some of my other opinions. Yesterday one of my friends complained about someone coming through the McDonalds drive through and ordering too many chicken nuggets. They said that person had "no respect for how they made the employees feel". It's like... come on man. They just wanted some nuggies. Surely you can muster the immense strength of will required to cook a few extra?
idk why the workers would feel any way about one person ordering 200 nuggets vs 10 people ordering 20 each.
Spelling errors on professional documents, especially signs/posters/ads. You don't have to know everything, but you have to check before putting it up.
When I see restaurant specials boards riddled with mistakes it makes me want to not eat there.
I feel odd when correcting grammatical issues in documents from my attorney. What am I paying you for?
I even judge people for spelling errors in my messenger, openly.
judging other people
Using a DE, Neovim or systemd.
Fucking casuals.
Gatekeeping
Thats what Ubuntu users say.
I don't even know what you're talking about.
I judge you for that.
Who made you Judge Judy and executioner?
Here's something positive: precisely mentioning what they tried on a problem already!
If someone's stuck on a problem and defines what help they need, then I have no thoughts either way. It's just a problem, and something to be helped through. Neutral.
But if they describe what they did already, then I think "Wow, this person really put in some I-don't-give-up effort! Nice work, bro!"
I think it's a particular skill to phrase requests for help in such a way to list as many relevant steps that you tried as briefly as possible and judiciously decide not to mention all the steps you've tried tempting though it may be. I had for a long time in the context of tech support questions written very long help requests because I was so afraid of getting a glib response to try some extremely obvious thing that takes 5 seconds and would definitely fix some well known easily solvable issue but not the harder more obscure issue I was experiencing that happened to have characteristics of that simpler issue.
I learned though that the longer your request is the less chance you have of receivingany help and if it's a captive audience who are required to help you, the more chance you'll have of them getting rid of you by deliberately misinterpreting the issue by focussing on any random part of the very long description (could be the opening sentence, could be something several paragraphs in) and pretending the request was all about that. They'd hone in on steps I described taking to try and fix the issue I wrote the help request about in the first place, re-contextualise those steps as a different, unrelated help request and then give an unhelpful response on how to solve that issue that I was never experiencing to begin with. More innocently, long lists of what's been tried also just make it harder to understand the problem when someone is trying to assist by virtue of the sheer volume of text produced and how boring and tedious it becomes for them to read. There's also another issue in being too fixated on listing what's been tried which is that, although the whole idea is to filter out responses that involve solutions that have already been attempted, often it transpires that you didn't actually attempt the solution in the right way and something dismissed as ineffectual actually would have worked after all. Sometimes it's actually better to let people suggest something you already tried and anticipated they might suggest, just so you can double check that you actually really did try that approach properly and didn't have a faulty understanding of how to apply it.
That said though, obviously I try to make sure to include the things I'm very confident I don't need to try again to show that indeed I've worked on the problem and have tried the more obvious solutions already.
Funny, I saw this to an extreme, a ways back.
Someone posted for software help on some forum about something and... they described everything. I shit you not, their description was a determinate system in it of itself.
CPU, GPU, SSD, ram, thermal fans, size measurements, age, resolution, price point, model, kernel version, installed package count, filesystem setup, update log, journalctl, dmesg, Xorg log, genome sequence. And the kicker?
First comment:
ok but i'm not sure what you're asking. what's the problem, exactly?
No other comments.
Haha almost sounds like my style before refining this skill, although maybe not that extreme.
Lately I’ve been seeing a lot of people just throwing trash out their car windows. It’s become disturbingly common and I really want to scream at the that the world is not their trashcan. I don’t, because I really think I would get shot.
When I was 14 I tossed a piece of packaging for the chips I was eating on the ground. I don't know why I did that, I'd been so against it as a good little kid, I think my mind was just experimenting at the time with whether I really needed to give a shit about this anymore. Probably some kind of "edginess" I was cultivating perhaps. Anyway, some middle aged teacherly guy picked it up in front of me and put it in the bin. Then he gave me a statistic about how our city was the "nth cleanest in the world and we should keep it that way". I was by myself but kinda scoffingly shrugged it off as he walked away to show I didn't care what he thought. But being called out like that and feeling that hot flush of angry embarrassment and being forced to pay specific attention to my actions instantly and dramatically recalibrated that drift in my values on the issue of of littering in a permanent way. It wasn't because they made an especially good point, in fact I didn't find the statistic particularly compelling I mean of all the reasons to do the bare minimum of decency that seems like one of the worst, like it's some sort of competition or something. Nevertheless it was just a reminder at the perfect moment that no, this isn't going to be acceptable even if there's no obvious consequence and you shouldn't start to feel okay about this.
The fact that the guy was kinda lame and had such middle aged dad and teacher vibes about him I think made all the difference, there wasn't an angry confrontation, but it was still firm. He backed off and walked away straight after he said his piece rather than giving me the chance to turn it in to an argument where I might feel rebellious and victorious about it, he just calmly left me to stew in the fact that whatever bravado I might have put on for him, he didn't care and I was going to have to reckon with why I ever thought this was going to be a good habit to start.
I bring this up because maybe if you have the opportunity to you actually should say something, though obviously carefully and not too aggressively. Sometimes it makes a difference even if by their response the person would appear to indicate that it didn't.
Common misuse of words. Decimate means reduce by 1/10 not almost completely destroy. Exponential growth. The variable has to be in the exponent if it's a constant exponent that is polynomial growth. Gaslighting isn't just lying. It's making someone belive that they can't trust their own memories or experiences so they believe you despite evidence to the contrary.
Using "decimate" to mean "completely destroy" is not a misuse of the word. The word's meaning has simply changed.
exactly. plus it makes sense, there's no reason why decimate can't mean reduce to one tenth.
When I read it, I agree with you - but when I say decimate, it sure sounds like it should mean near total destruction.
Saying that they could care less when they mean they couldn't care less.
Like, of course anyone can care less than they currently do.
The way I handle this is to parse them differently. They mean the same thing, but “I couldn’t care less” is sincere and “I could care less” is sarcastic.
Sort of like, “I suppose it’s possible that I could care less about that” reduced to the phrase.
Because both phrases obviously communicate the same meaning, a lack of care, the issue for me isn’t in the understanding but in the parsing. So I had to come up with a way to parse it as sarcasm so it doesn’t bother me.
Like when someone says, “I’ll try and be there” my brain, mildly traumatized by really good English teachers in my youth, screams, “YOU’LL TRY TO BE THERE.” But lately I’ve been making an effort to interpret the “and ” following “try” as an alternate form of the infinitive, since it’s so readily accepted and common in spoken English. We already construct other verbs that way anyway (eg. “I’ll go and do that”).
I…might have a touch of the ‘tism. It wouldn’t surprise me. 😅
I always thought of it as a semi-threat/dismissal. For example, "By your actions I see you don't really care about this serious problem." Then the response, "I could care less." Meaning, it's such a moot point to the person that they could indeed just not care at all about it if necessary.
Putting the dollar sign after the number. Yes, that is how it is read, but not how it is written. "Five dollars" is $5, not 5$.
%100
Similarly, people who write "a 100%" to mean "a hundred percent."
What they actually wrote winds up being "a one hundred percent." The "one" doesn't disappear by putting "a" in front of it. If you want to write a hundred, write "a hundred." It's what you're supposed to do for smaller numbers in the English language anyway.
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People with shattered phone screens.
Pretty much anyone with a broken phone screen are just chaos moving around.
How dare you accurately describe me 😤
I understand where you're coming from, but it might just have been a simple accident and they're too poor or don't have the time to get it fixed. I went around with a shattered screen for about six months.
That's the exception for me. If the screen is cracked, but it bothers them I sympathize, but if it's cracked and they throw their phone around and get mad as if it was the phone's fault then I super, super judge them.
People who make small talk with the cashier or service person when there is a line and people who accelerate in the turn lane.
- People who take phone calls with it on speaker
- People that have anything on speaker while in a public place
- Wearing "MAGA" clothing
- Having a cyber truck
- Leaving large gaps in the drive thru queue
- People with young children that they dress up like little adults.
- People who refuse to learn basic tech (email, texting, etc.)
- Edit: People that don't like animals, or they dislike just cats. I feel like people who don't vibe with animals in some way are... Off.
~~damn, I'm a judgy bitch~~
Being all like "I fucking love science" whilst perpetuating ignorance of what science actually is like
'It has chemicals in it'
This use of 'chemicals' as something inherently bad just makes it sound like they're parroting some scaremongering tiktok.
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