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Cry.
Hold my arms in a position so that my hands grab the sides of my belly.
(which wasn't even something I was consciously doing, but apparently it was enough to make a fellow male teenager exclaim sarcastically that I was truly standing there in a very heterosexual way)
- Wear orange or pink.
- Eat quiche
- Like poetry
- Hang out with girls at recess
- Wear an earring
- Owning Laurie Anderson or Philip Glass CDs
Quiche is amazing. Who doesn't like eggs and ham/bacon? Hanging out with gurls, well yeah nothing straight about that...
eat a chicken sandwich. Apparently straight men have to eat burgers.
Hilarious considering chik-a-fila history (unless it's a reference and I missed it for too not being American and having never heard about them before their homophobia was revealed)
It's funny to me all the times that I've been considered not manly enough, whether it's wearing my hot pink vans or a pink shirt or tie, allowing my gf or now my daughters to paint my nails, and tons of other examples I've been called gay for too. It made me think, what really makes a man. And going by their own definition, isn't it one sign of a man to not be swayed by the opinion of someone who seeks only to denigrate? So why would I care about their opinion?
The one and only thing was the way I held my wrists/hands when I was younger/into my teens. What's super weird is it was my dad who brought it up and mentioned it a lot but he is super supportive of lgbtq+ that's the weird thing to me.
Clean my ass
Kiss my homie
kissing your son
Wear a kilt?
TBH I've never tried and nobody told me it was gay. But I'm a sweaty person and I would love to air out my crotch except for fear of social criticism.
Take my pants all the way off when I poop
Better than not pulling em down at all
Obviously that's not "gay", but is it...useful? Convenient? How often do you actually do it, and why?
Is that you, Costanza??
Putting a wig on my best friend and spooning him while he's asleep.
Don't let anybody tell you you're not humpable, because you're bumpable, I hope this doesn't make you feel uncomfortable.
Wearing an earring in your right ear, but it's ok to wear it in the left... Or the other way around. I could never remember which.
When I was a kid, the saying (here in the UK) was "right ear, right queer".
~~Don’t wear it solely on the left~~
Apparently I got it wrong, sorry for giving you the gay
Only wear it on the left
According to my dad, considering something as 'lovely'. Even if it's the exhaust note of a motorcycle.
TBH, it's quite gay to be infatuated with exhausts...
Was this some iteration of "straight men don't care about aesthetics, they care about function" type of thing??
Because that's such a boring existence. I'm sorry your dad hates aesthetics. I hope you've found your own tastes despite him.
TIL I'm gay
We're all at least a little gay 💜
Using black eyeliner.
These are all example from decades ago growing up in the 90’s.
I was called gay for not liking soccer, like it’s gay to not watch men chase a ball in shorts.
I was called gay for wearing UGG boots as a dude. Like if we even want to accept gay as an insult, I would argue the person bothered by such things as what shoes one is wearing is more fitting of an insult.
Fun fact. When I had a house mate who was gay, it was very difficult not to use gay as a word for something that wasn’t fun. Like this show is gay. He didn’t mind, but still wanted to stop.
I read a lot as a child and watched very little TV. So in first grade, I only knew the "traditional" meaning of gay. The first time I remember hearing it in the sense of homosexual was when a classmate told me, in a hushed and gossipy tone, "one of the Teletubbies is gay." (I did know about the show even if I hadn't ever watched it.) I didn't really react, but all I was thinking was, "aren't they all?"
I somehow managed to condition myself into thinking of gay as a complement term. People I hung out with in high school used to call things "straight" derogatively. Something was straight if it was boring, bland, predictable, superficially performative in a conformist manner, etc.
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