More people more drama. I rarely see rudeness in my experience
this post was submitted on 01 Apr 2025
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I feel like casual rudeness and insults have become more common as more people have come over from Reddit.
The first few waves of people are going to be the asshats that got banned for one thing or another. Some good people, mostly bad apples.
God damet, redditors ruining a nice thing again :(
Are people negative and rude or not expressed passion towards anything?
Also, I think there is a good passion for tech surrounding this community. I like that.
Yeah ! Except in the dev/code realm... They seem very aggressive to each other, specially if you whisper something like: Rust is safer than C !
I don't really get it, but I find It very pleasant to read when passionate people write a whole essay I don't even understand 1/10 of what they are writing... However, there seems some heated negativity in that community !
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What communities are you frequenting?
The ones I sub and post to have been nice.
Same here
I've found much more genuine, honest discussion on here than other platforms. More people say thanks when someone corrects them. I feel like I'm talking to reasonable adults, for the most part.
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I don't think it's "growing," more that as society continues to get worse people's outlooks grow darker.
world on fire
people in fire
OP: Why aren't you smiling?
Pretty much!
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Please also report people being rude, that's a temp ban here.
ehhh i wouldn't it way to start and angry mob and sometimes i dont trust mods descension. since even servers with no rules will make up reasons for a ban
Find the best available option? Or start your own server with no rules and attract others who want no rules?
I think a good community would have restrictions to avoid unnecessary hate
What's with all the downvotes? I swear there has to be vote manipulation going on with some of these threads.
We're negative doomscrollers, true. But most people seem pretty polite, at least in my experience.
I can be negative. But I love people and want the best for everyone. What I don't like are the toxic systems of control that some people are under, and some people follow. Aand sometimes I can be swept up in the injustice, and lose my patience with extreme followers.
I apologise in advance to this community if I make someone's mood worse, instead of better. I can often fail, and yet we should all strive to be a healthy member of the communities we inhabit!
Your right about the doom scrollers part. Everyone on Lemmy atleast on the larger subs are always negative. Politics are dominating the main subs and explore page. It's such a turn off. Politics needs to generally stay out if the lime light. Instead of doom posts thrown in your face. Non stop.
We all have our reasons for being here. The politics is definitely depressing, but it's something a lot of Lemmites have in common.
You're right that it'd be nice if there was more going on.
You'll have to be more specific. I'm not seeing any unusual amount of negativity.
What's that thing about expressing any passion? What do you mean by that?
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Selection bias mostly, you only remember the negative interactions. I'm new here but I've not run into any particularly negative or rude people so they don't seem super common, nowhere near like reddit.
yeah i noticed they tend to go after certain posts and they need to be primed by either downvotes or a comment. the rude people will be quiet if you make safe posts but if they get a hint that there other people that don't like you then they dogpile. i noticed a good way to trigger it is to basically say or imply you do things without their approval or you dont care what they think
That sounds.. rather conspiratorial.
Also, just yesterday I posted a longish rant about doing what you want and not caring about what people think in a comment and the only reply I got was 'This is the kind of pep talk I need!', so.. shrug Guess we travel in different circles.
well i don't say that its orchestrated or premeditated, its generally that group wants to feel part of a group and they look for signs that they're part of a group. the "tipping point" is a comment (or even a downvote on op replies) and then people that seek approval align themselves with the largest group.
I told the anti ai crowd that i was going to make an ai bot somewhere on the fediverse just to see how people would interact with it fedizens, simply to satify my curiosity, so that's the context. i just telling people "you're being an asshole to me and making demands from me while I'm just trying to hear you out, so i don't feel like changing for you"
My bad, perhaps the better word to use would've been paranoid. Had a similar ring to 'they only come out when no one else is looking', ya know?
Oh okay. I did have a conversation I tried to explain a litteral conspiracy and I kept getting called a conspiracy theorist
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Itβs probably a downstream effect of the souring mood in the United States as the consequences of the current administration and our slide into fascism become increasingly apparent. Canβt speak for the rest of the world, but itβs hard to believe things are getting better out there.
Its the internet, no matter how much people here like to think lemmy is some kind of special utopia its no different to any other site or social media.
My theory is that for-profit social media companies push conflict and controversy because it increases βengagement.β So, people are conditioned to be hostile and hiss like a cat at the first sign of disagreement (real or imagined). Lemmy, obviously, has different incentives.
Itβs happening on Mastodon and BlueSky too. I try to respond with kindness and sincerity. (I donβt always succeed. I kind of suck at it, to be honest. But if we all even can halfass human decency, itβll be better than most of the internet.)
+1 ! Need to work on my morning Lemmy scrolling... Grumpy as fuck and not being nice to people sucks :// !
The Tumblr effect
Thing allows freedom of speech Thing now has "bad apples" Thing either get lobotomized or accomodates with that freedom.
Things are hard out there, and that makes people feel like finding hills to die on. The less stressful life is, the better the discourse, usually.
i noticed that too. i chalk it up to people are always seeking approval and they want to tell express to everyone how the think and feel in hopes that people will express the same. its not everyone id say at most 30%. also you have to keep in mind that this is where the reddit rejects go (i can say that word because i got banned off of reddit lol).
another user got mad and attacked me for saying "my morality and logic is different" and said nothing about why my differences is bad.