That's just basic psychology more or less. These are just the thoughts you shouldn't say ouloud perhaps. You can often compare things because there's similarities, but the nature of the things being compared may make it offensive.

It's more like "training dogs has given me an understanding of basic psychology which came really handy in my relationships" than "I'm training my bf like a dog".

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 11 points 2 months ago

When logic doesn't work, appeal to the lizard brain ... often. We're kinda not that complex.

I totally respect this, but worry egoes (his) will get in the way during a lull in the snacks.

[–] burgerpocalyse@lemmy.world 11 points 2 months ago (4 children)

i remember this episode of Big Bang Theory

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[–] Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca 8 points 2 months ago

Insert "it should've been me" meme here.

[–] PopcornPrincess@lemmy.world 8 points 2 months ago

Isn’t this just reinforcement, like reinforcement vs punishment from behavioral psychology? It works.

[–] AFC1886VCC@reddthat.com 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Weak. Submissives, come to me and I will treat you as lesser than a dog. You may not be useless, but you are worthless 😎

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 7 points 2 months ago

I will throw you like Donkey Kong throws a barrel.

[–] Lightor@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (6 children)

This is just poorly thought out. You offer dessert and to pay, then classify it as food motivation. I mean it could be that he's happy you're paying, or happy you want to be out longer. If anything, he just ate, so food motivation would be at its lowest.

You're taking an animal that isn't as complex as humans or even has a concept of society, and trying to apply that to a person in a relationship. I think the thought is there, but the conclusions are a bit flawed.

[–] MyNameIsIgglePiggle@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 months ago

M&M?

[–] Redfox8@mander.xyz 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

We're only more complex in that we have language systems so can assess situations in a more detailed way. The majority of the time we have pretty much the same instincts and responses to stimuli to many other animals because, in short, it takes less energy/effort. Being able to conceive society, something canines can do, doesn't stop other natural instincts. There is a level of simplification, yes, but this is a social media post, not a scientific study so it won’t explain every minute detail!

[–] Lightor@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

We’re only more complex in that we have language systems so can assess situations in a more detailed way.

In part yes. But we also have a society. We have concepts of social norms that we created and evolved. We have expectations developed through a lifetime of education and media. A human from 50 years ago would feel lost in today's world, let alone a dog. We may be driven by some same basics, but we are more complex.

My point is that we can't talk to dogs like we can to humans. So we learn signs and try to interpret them as best we can. But interpretations are just that - interpretations. They can be wrong. A better method would be to talk and discuss the issue, removing the need for any guesswork.

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[–] squirrel@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)

The NYT had an article from 2006 which described a very similar "training". It goes into greater detail. Here is an archived version without paywall: https://archive.ph/n4GPa

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[–] Nougat@fedia.io 6 points 2 months ago

I don't see a problem here.

[–] tipicaldik@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

62yo male here thinks she's a damn genius... maybe she should like, make some of those tiktoks or something...

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

As a 62 year old, you should not encourage awful things...like going on TikTok

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[–] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago

I mean this simply gets into the ethics of manipulation. Ultimately, it comes down to choosing happiness.

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