Ask Lemmy

I'm similar to you, but probably not as bad. I don't often remember my dreams, or I might wake up with a fragment of a memory in my head: "Oh no! I need to let someone know the cats are playing cards in the oven!" But any of the context is lost. Also, if I don't immediately focus on that fragment and try to remember more about it, it will disappear from my mind completely.

Sometimes, I'll get a big chunk of the story, or multiple fragments that I can chain together to figure out the overall plot of the dream, but that's only a few times a year, if that.

I wish I remembered more of them more frequently. I find them very entertaining.

Recently I've dreamt of having a lucid dream, so dream me thought he had control of the dream, but I don't think I did. I remember trying to master flying, but it was difficult, and I was afraid of heights.

I had a dream not too long ago (week maybe) where I didn’t dream about an event or a past, but I dreamt about a project I was working on and I invented something for myself that I can actually build right now if I wanted, but it is meant for me a decade or two in the future.

I’m a wood carver and I’m currently carving a gift for my brother in law. The dream was me fixing a lot of the things I had issue with in the project, and a future idea about my parents that I’ll be writing down and brainstorming until the times comes that I’ll probably want to build it.

I have aphantasia so don’t really have full fledged scenic dreams with a narrative like some people have.

It’s more like I see my daughter crawling and falling into the plug socket so I need to go in after her, and then I’m suddenly in a field full of wasps.

I don’t ‘see’ much, it’s more like flashes of images and emotions; and I’ll often open my eyes and talk or shout but still be asleep mentally.

I don't dream much either, according to sleep studies. Do you have a sleep disorder and/or smoke weed?

I used to dream better when I was younger and even took control of a few them. Now I'm pretty much like you, it's rare if I even remember one.

A couple were probably windows to my subconscious like the nightmares that involved me waking up sure that nukes were about to strike or the ones about tornadoes attacking me.

I have a personal hypothesis, born out of studies I read a long time ago and haven't kept up with nor really bothered to research more (so take it with a grain of salt), that dreams are two things happening at once:

•Your brain organizing your memories of everything that happened that day, including every thought you had even if it doesn't have a physical event attached to it.

•Your imagination adding as much of a cohesive story as it can to those often times unrelated memories.

I always picture it like still images that change rapidly one after the other, sort of like flipbooks, and then your "conscious" mind trying to keep up with it, finding no logic, and creating a storyline instead.

I've found myself lucid dreaming before, and despite being in control and knowing it's a dream, I'm still asleep, so I end up making dumb choices or playing along with my dream.

The dreams I remember tend to be strangest/goofiest ones or the ones that had some emotional impact on me. However, when I analyze them while awake, I realize that there was a lot of extra "content" that I didn't add or doesn't fit into the dream. Like how somehow the place and the people I'm with change every "scene".

Sometimes I wake up with a phrase resonating inside my head, with that feeling you get in your mouth when tou want to say something. And since I'm bilingual, I've had dreams with both languages happening at once. Hell, I've even had dreams where I'm speaking Japanese "fluently" (i.e. it feels fluent in the dream but I know it must be gibberish, since I don't speak the language).

Sometimes they help me face subconscious anxieties, sometimes they give me solutions to problems I'm having IRL, but more often than not, it's like I'm watching the randomest movie ever. And I do think they're a "window or the subconscious" but not in the sense I think you're asking. Since they're memories and imagination, it is your subconscious that is choosing to focus on specific aspects or the storyline you create. So, analyzing them can help to see what's going inside that blob of fat we call brain.

Tl;dr: they feel like when you're fantasizing/daydreaming but a lot less cohesive, and can be helpful every now and then.

I don't know how dreams happen to people with aphantasia, and I know my explanation would be wildly different for them, but that's how I see dreams.

You sound a lot like me but maybe you are younger. I can't remember the last dream I could remember but I do recall that I have had neat dreams scary nightmares in my life. Definately had variations on flying and crawling ones and had a reoccuring house break in one as a kid but on average it was like maybe one a year.