Some people respond to correction by lashing out. That's true for literally everything. Telling them you can't smoke there, not washing their hands is gross, you need to take off your shoes in my house, etc.
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Also, 'wear a mask'
"Get your car out of the bike lane" gets 'em real mad every time.
Crappy parents are probably aware that their kid is a bit shit and feel insecure about their parenting. Insecure people often lash out when given criticism while someone more confident would be able to learn rather than take it as a personal attack.
No because they literally are the first on the scene to throw a fit and they have done nothing at all to instruct the children.
They are almost seeming like they are pissed off because thr kids were self-conscious and stopped and they hate that. She also clearly gets off on the bothering part
Its like "let them play and screech in the hallway like its a jungle gym i could otherwise get off my fussock-y ass and take them to"
The answer to your question is the 3rd and 4th words of the title.
You answered your own question. They are crappy. When you identify how their kid is misbehaving it is a challenge to the parents.
Now a big part of this is how you couch and present your correction.
Being crappy is a judgement of something, never a cause of anything.
Using it as such is a cop-out. A lazy way of dismissing something so you don't have to try to understand it.
The term is I believe “thought terminating cliche”
“What’s bob talking about”
“Some conspiracy theory”
“Oh never mind then”
Maybe the kid has ADHD level 2 and the parents are doing absolutely everything humanly possible already?
/parent to a level 2 ADHD kid
I don't think that's the scenario we're talking about here.
I went undiagnosed for nearly 40 years and now I have three with very different levels and styles of ADHD.
There's a difference between cutting the kids some slack because they are neurodivergent (hopefully they are still being held accountable and are being taught that they can't do whatever they want without consequences) and reacting with "That's impossible! My sweet baby would NEVER do that! You must be lying!" anytime you learn about what they've done.
That end part is almost it but theyre not even denying its shitty behavior. It that rapey "youre gonna tolerate it and shut the fuck up while they destroy any quality of life remaining for you here" as if its an inevitabillity that im seriously gonna have to let stand unrectified or "fuckin move then"
Seriously fuck her
I don't know the situation, but are those her actual words or are you just guessing at her motives?
It might not have anything to do with you. Some of that sounds like it could be desperation. Possibly "I know he's an asshole, but I've tried everything and he just keeps doing it! Why even bother?" add in some defensiveness because she's feeling like a failure of a mom while you two are having the conversation about the behavior problems, and it could very well sounds like she's angry with you.
Like I said, I don't know, but no point in adding hostility where there could be teamwork.
There cant be collaboration, I need it to stop and she will actively fight for her children to use the hallway in all the same ways as a playground. She has agency here but she uses all that agency and energy to snap against someone who is just the messenger pointing out to her children (not even her at first) that they need to stop and quiet doen
She did say then move but ive captured her defiance perfectly. She literally sounds and looks like that fussocky toadperson in Schitt's Creek who shows up to the store's opening and when David asks her who she is, she ends with a hard "Who the FUCK are you?"
Are there actual rules about noise in the hallway? If there are, is she aware of them? Is there anyone who could potentially enforce those rules other than you? If there are no rules, then it could just be a cultural difference, and good luck to you trying to enforce your own rules in public spaces. You think it's entirely reasonable to have a silent hallway, but maybe the other lady has never lived in a quiet place her whole life. Maybe she can't see why you would want that at all.
The managers wont do shit, ive had to be quite aggressively vocal to clean out the worst of the behavior by another repeat offender who also likes to make a living room of the lobby.
Its like housework, it never ends but I have a trick where ill go out and check my mail and be super obvious about it with all the same sounds and if their noise is over the top i will lightly shush and gedture for the volume to go down and it seems to be classically conditioning them to moderate their volume and or split now that noise patrol's been invoked
Staying on top of it and keeping them on task is a chore for sure. Its gross how these are freakin adults well senior to me and they still need someone like me to get them to pipe the fuck down. Its honestly embarassing for themz
We have levels now? How do I power up?!
I honestly don't know. If my kids are getting a raw deal, I'll stick up for them, but if they are facing consequences for their own intentional actions, they earned those.
Kids who get away with anything won't stop doing anything.
This is exactly my point. The stranger is giving a lifeline for a change. They could stand aside and shut their piehole and let the stranger in the right correct and say what needed to be said and let them hear what they need to hear.
I wasnt and will never be a monster to the kids in so saying wbat they need to know but she wont even allow that natural and healthy process to occur undisturbed, shes tryinv to get them sucked back into behaving shittily as her indirect way of causing discomfort to me even tho i throw all that discomfort right back in her face (like a dog who pisses on the rug) when i inevitably have to scold her for interrupting the natural things that have to happen when there is an ongoing violation like that she is clearly throwing lighter fuel all over