Just the sex work discussion it seems. Easy way to start left wing infighting lol.
this post was submitted on 20 Jan 2026
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I try to avoid being inflammatory in my posts but I'm glad that user called out the SWERF line and pushed back against it. I even DMed her to say thanks since the post was locked by the time I saw it. No comment on how the mods chose to act just writing to back that user up for having a better line on sex work than most people here
Normally we ask that meta posts and appeals on mod action to be posted in !hexbear@hexbear.net but since that is local only you cannot.
If the mod who took actions wants to respond with their reasoning they may do so.
I'm not interested in Hexbear's moderation and decisions internally, it's not my business. I made this post here because the Hexbear moderators, and by extension the admins, left up a comment calling Lemmygrad a misogynist and "incel" space.
I think that's beyond the realm of an individual moderator's discretion.
Sorry, I don't understand what you want. Could you state what action you want or are you wanting to vent? As the question in the post title as well as the question in the second section of the post body seem to indicate you do want to discuss hexbear moderation
Sorry for the unclarity. In brief: Hexbear moderators and admins should not allow a comment that slanders Lemmygrad to the extent of accusing Lemmygrad of being a misogynist space. I would ask for this comment to be removed, and for this to be clarified to the user in question and the moderators of that community.
What I meant earlier was that I am not judging the other moderation actions on the community or the post, since it doesn't concern me. I only made this post because the comment is directly slandering Lemmygrad as an instance, not because of Hexbear's position on the topic of sex work.
Thank you for clarifying I didn't want to start a discussion if you were just wanting to vent or misunderstand you.
We don't have a rule about people sharing their opinion on federated instances. There are multiple comments on lemmygrad sharing their opinions about hexbear.
As mentioned by Slay the topic of sex work has been historically a point of contention between the people of hexbear and lemmygrad. I will talk to the moderator team about "posts/comments that slander lemmygrad/federated instances" and encourage moderators to remind people that we should aim for education over bullying.
I will talk to the moderator team about “posts/comments that slander lemmygrad/federated instances” and encourage moderators to remind people that we should aim for education over bullying.
To further clarify, I don't believe that bullying or harsh tones are a problem in general, just that cases where accusations of bigotry are levied should be treated with special consideration.
People should not be able to get away with a throw-away comment that accuses an entire community of being racist, misogynist, transphobic, abelist, etc. without proof. To further drive this point home, if a Hexbear user accuses a federated instance of being a misogynist space, would you not want to follow up on that as Hexbear admins? Would you want to be federated with a misogynist space that makes your users unsafe and uncomfortable? Bigotry should be treated seriously.
I'm familiar with Hexbear's culture and I'm not trying to police mostly harmless dunking or trash talking.
Our federation allow-list is largely determined by the local users, in the event the userbase thought that lemmygrad had widespread misogyny I'm sure there would be a post calling for defederation with many supporters. I would suppose the person who made the comment would point to the removed comments as proof as well as the fact that this has been a disagreement with history.
