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[–] zerosouls@infosec.pub 3 points 6 hours ago

All i see is LCARS theme for a messanger app

[–] morgunkorn@discuss.tchncs.de 38 points 1 day ago (2 children)

i met my husband on grindr, 14y together, it's possible, keep believing <3

[–] oatscoop@midwest.social 15 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago)

Huh, my experience has been mostly unsolicited dick picks from sentient thumbs that appear to be other peoples' husbands.

[–] deacon@lemmy.world 24 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Grindr has been around 14 years? Weird way to feel old.

[–] morgunkorn@discuss.tchncs.de 19 points 1 day ago

founded 16 years ago:3

[–] tempest@lemmy.ca 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Tinder (do the kids even use this anymore) is from around the early 2010s

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

"online dating" for me still makes me primarily think of match.com and okcupid, lol

[–] tempest@lemmy.ca 3 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

You're in luck then because I'm pretty sure match (or the entity that owns it) owns all these dating apps.

So your still right in a sense.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 5 hours ago

oh, wow - I didn't know that, thanks!

[–] ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com 48 points 1 day ago (2 children)

So... How long term are we talking? "Til death do us part" like, two hours?

[–] D_C@sh.itjust.works 23 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You gotta shoot your shot though.

[–] ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com 21 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Natanael@infosec.pub 1 points 7 hours ago
[–] mohammed_alibi@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

He's hurt and at the hospital... could last for two hours...

[–] als@lemmy.blahaj.zone 69 points 1 day ago (5 children)

grindr is not the place to find a long term relationship

[–] PhoenixDog@lemmy.world 4 points 7 hours ago

You could say the same thing about Tinder, and I've been married for over 8 years because of it.

[–] lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com 68 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 44 points 1 day ago

It could last the rest of your life

[–] Melissa@lemmy.blahaj.zone 31 points 1 day ago (2 children)

You’d be surprised… I currently have two LTRs that started as Grindr hookups…

[–] eupraxia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

Same here! Found a couple really great people on Grindr I'm happily still with a few years later. Met a bandmate there too, lol

[–] Melissa@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 hours ago

Yep, I’ve found it really comes down to setting the right intentions up front, and being selective in who you play with. My goal was never to be on Grindr forever, but that’s where I had to go to meet fun kinky trans people in my area.

[–] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 16 points 1 day ago

Not with that attitude. Take it till you make it!

[–] Denjin@feddit.uk 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What about the guy who shat in that dudes mouth? Dreams can come true...

[–] guynamedzero@piefed.zeromedia.vip 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I was looking for that post the other day cause I was curious if he went through with it, and it looks like it got deleted.

[–] Denjin@feddit.uk 19 points 1 day ago

Yeah, mods are a bunch of anti scat-fetish prudes.

He did go though with it, both were very happy.

[–] einlander@lemmy.world 18 points 1 day ago

Trying to get on someone's insurance plan.

[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 54 points 1 day ago (1 children)

don't let traumatic injuries get in the way of romance

[–] No1@aussie.zone 15 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I.was waiting for "I was shot", then :

Shot to the heart
And you're to blame
I'm stuck in bed
But still game

[–] deacon@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago

This is light years beyond the level of multitasking I aspire to on my best days, so I really have to give my respect.

If that isn't an icebreaker I don't know what is

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 1 day ago

SHOT THROUGH THE HEART!

... and you're to blame...

Darling, you give love...

A BAD NAME!

guitar sting

Can’t argue with that

[–] diffaldo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 day ago

Priorities 👍