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the internet is not a daycare for children.

if you don't have the skin to be online, don't be online.

it's like walking into a biker bar and complaining about the loud music, smoke and lack of healthy food.

I think this has always been a problem in many of the online social spaces.

Forums, xbox live, all the way back since the Internet became a common service.

The parents need to be more involved in regulating kids access to internet, socials and otherwise, and they can make choices based on what they see.

Absentee parenting, at least in the digital realm is the problem on both sides of this issue.

This community should be renamed to anything goes community.

Moderation team never actually moderate.

This is an opinion peace. Why is it posted here?

I'm a whole cisgendered 30 year old male who games a bit too much, so I try to discourage misogynistic comments when they're made by people in games.

I think there's another layer to the misogyny where any form of "defending" women is seen as white-knighting or simping. You don't even have to be directly referring to comments about a specific person, but you'll still be labeled as a loser who likes women, for some reason.

I was an early Facebook user. I had an account from 2007-2018. The early years it seemed fun and Fairly innocent. I kept up with friends and saw funny posts. I could curate my feed to be things I wanted to see. When I left Facebook in 2018 it seems like the app was targeting me. Showing me things to rile me up. First I quit the mobile app. I deleted it and used a browser. Then I left Facebook altogether. A year ago I did a similar thing with Instagram. It was no longer a place curated to my interests. It’s horrible. I barely touch it anymore. Even Reddit is not my usual collection of posts that interests me. It’s why I’m on here! Everything is just so polarizing now. I have been able to cut way back and do my own thing. But at 15 friends are your world. Everyone is using the app. Everyone is speaking the speak. It’s so hard for them to disconnect.

While i agree the internet (i.e. most of the web and commercial social media) has gone to shit lately on account of surveillance capitalism and algorithmic monetization, i do still think kids these days would need life-long therapy if they grew up in 90s internet.
And i don't think it was better then.

I read the article and found it poignant and interesting.

That said, why am I seeing this on !world@lemmy.world ? It is not about anywhere else in the world specifically and it is not even news.

I know that in the rules it says only opinion pieces are potentially removed, but the fact that this "needs" to be published here makes the problem two-fold:

1. it creates noise in the community where I would like to see news from anywhere else in the world than the US.
2. it means that who posted it here thinks there is no other community where this actually would fit? Looking at the crossposts the other 2 communities (Technology and WomensStuff) seem way more fitting.

Putting everything everywhere doesn't help communities grow. It just generates noise.

The answer is to disengage yourself, and to teach your children AND OTHERS to disengage from social media.

Social media is harmful, advertising is harmful, drugs are harmful, gambling is harmful. This is a question of societal level harm and is is a problem for individual counties, nations, and states to address by the creation and enforcement of law, and for individuals to address by collectively shaming participants.

It's not only misogyny.

Social media absolutely removes the inhibitions of just about all kinds of assholes, builds pat-each-other-on-the-back support groups for them by putting them together with like minded assholes and then algorithmically shovels all that shit on everybody else because anything that elicits strong emotions means more clicks and anger from being offended is one such emotion.

By the way, this also applies to unhealthy gender expectations on males (including misandry), though this being The Guardian I expect this is about the UK, which IMHO (having lived there and also elsewhere in Europe) is a country with serious problems when it comes to gender expectations around women and insidious "benevolent" sexism ("benevolent" not because it's good but because it follows the whole "women are fragile creatures" and subsequent subtle disemplowering of women "to protect them" or because "they're emotional creatures") which far too often taints the articles in The Guardian because they're very much from the British upper-middle class Acceptable Feminism, which tends to underestimate the strength of women and favor "protection" "solutions" over empowerment and agency.

So whilst I absolutely believe in all of this and in misogyny online being very bad, especially in certain countries, the choice of focusing on misogyny rather than as a whole in the problem of social media's Profit Driven amplification of societal dysfunctions in general, is very much a typical privileged British Upper Middle Class "Third Wave Feminist" perspective and choice.

feeling disheartened and unhappy about being a girl. When nearly every comments section on a video of a girl my age is filled with disgusting and objectifying comments about her body from boys, it causes me to feel deeply uncomfortable in my own body, and compare myself to her

this hits home for me. I have a near 14 year old daughter and this is the struggle I see with her constantly.

It's not that she's particularly non-binary/trans/androgynous, it's that she's ashamed/embarrassed to be a girl or be perceived as one. She still likes many traditional feminine things, (ie hair/nails/makeup, romance novels, cutesy characters, etc), and she has no real desire for any kind of masculine interests...

It's as though being a woman is inferior. It's "girly". And that's what is being internalized. And part of that, I think, is also the culture's post-ironic loathing for authenticity. Ala, being passionate or earnestly enjoying something is seen as being "cringe". So, being a girl, who likes girly things, is cringe.

I think both of these things ratchet the internalized misogyny. With the former being what turns the ratchet.