Childfree and share a house with my equally introverted partner. Work and commute are 45 hours of my week (excluding holidays and PTO etc.), other than that, the rest of my time is me time. I love spending hours on my own, puttering through my endless hobbies and interests. I have a few close friends, most are long distance, and I'm very grateful for them and the joy they bring to my life. Also very grateful that they respect my homebody nature. I think I'm very lucky, I know a lot of folks who feel they don't get the time and space they need.
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In total, probably 8-10 hours a week.
I work full time and live alone. So I lose 40+ hours on the front end, plus most nights & weekends doing all the chores that go along with being a functional adult. Recently, I also added working out into my routine, and that pretty much broke me. Yes, there's enough time to survive, but ya reach a point where you wonder WTF - how come I never have any fun anymore? I've now reached the point where I've had to force free time into the schedule. I now purposely fuck off Wednesday nights & Saturday mornings. Everything else is full. =(
Pretty much all of my time is me time. I don't do almost anything I don't want to. I don't even mind work because I'm self-employed and I like what I do.
Currently I'm at home drinking coffee and designing shelves for a customer's shipping container to store jump poles used in show jumping.
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Between work and going to school three times a week, not much free time as I'd like. So weekends and two afternoons a week.
Hmm... Interesting question. Not a lot of time, on average. Even at home, there's always some sort of management or planning to do. Always need to think about what comes next. But the busyness comes in waves. Occasionally I get a week with really nothing to do. And then, inversely, there are weeks where everything is happening all at once and it starts to feel like I can't keep up and things are starting to slip. I'm currently in one of those weeks, but I'm sure it'll pass. Just need to get through it. That's the life of a researcher for you. There's definitely a level of masochism required for this sort of lifestyle
problem is I kinda have a lot and a little. if you have things that can't get done per se but need doing. that is done is reliant on external things that may or may not happen. then you kinda have constant concern with responsibilities.
Depressed... college plans on pause... lots of free time... have a disappointed mother... kinda hate myself... trying to do some writing... but end up procrastinating with binge watching tv or anime... currently trying to seek help for depression... on parent's insurance and they're paying for treatment... I wanna get medications but I kinda feel like I'm "drugseeking" lol... initial few sessions... I don't think they want to prescribe me meds yet... talking kinda feels like a waste of time ngl... wtf am I even doing...
Probably just gonna continue with family bussiness and stuff... hopefully I'm mentally prepared enough for it...
I'm Asian... but do not live up to the stereotype lol, don't even have a college degree... can I even call myself an Asian?
My mom keeps talking about some cousin that allegedly "went to Singapore on bussiness trips and made millions of dollars"...
Yeah.... sureee.... I don't buy it... probably exaggerated just to brag.... they also boast about their expensive vacations all the time on WeChat which my immediate family rarely, if ever, have...
And one of my cousins had this expensive "Sweet 16" birthday party that my family was invited to and I was a kid at the time so I was forced to go... I hate the cuisine... never had those stuff before and my taste-buds just despise it... ended up just going home half hungry lmao
I don't have really have any deep resentments tho... their mom, aka my Aunt, aka my dad's sister, got us to the US... so... yeah... thanks for that... I guess... and good for them lol... but mom wouldn't stop comparing us to them... "WHY CAN'T YOU JUST BE LIKE THEM"
Idk mom, maybe your genes suck ass lmao (she has no blood relations to those cousins, they are on the paternal side of the family)
(pls don't judge lol)
(Oh shit did I go off on a tangent again? sorry lmfao I love story telling cuz I have no friends to tell it to IRL)