"I'm a dude, he's a dude, she's a dude, cause we're all dudes"
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Yeah i think of this all the time its stuck in my head permanently. But also, its very easy to just respect anyone not wanting to be called dude.
"I have had sex with X number of dudes" - doesn't sound all that gender neutral.
Same with 'guy': "how many guys have you kissed" isn't asking the same question as "how many people have you kissed."
"How many dudes do you live with?" isn't gender neutral, if you think it's just an intimacy thing. How many dudes were at the party? It isn't intimacy, intimacy is just an interesting way of making homophobic men confront the "dude isn't gender neutral" argument though.
So, what's actually happening in that 2nd panel? By all means, use dude how you like, just be honest about it.
I have, a couple of times, made men live their "dude is gender neutral" truth. Turns out telling people they are married to a dude, went to a party and kissed that dude one time, asking about their 2 dudes they have for parents, isn't such a great time for them. Just be honest about it.
There's also just the basic fucking courtesy of not using certain terms to describe someone if they ask you not to. If you address people of all genders as "dude" and a trans woman asks you not to refer to her that way, the correct response is "okay I'll do my best not to refer to you with that term," not "actually I use dude when referring to women sometimes so maybe you should just stop having a problem with it."
It's embarrassingly simple to come up with post hoc arguments for why refering to women as dude is fine actually.
Much harder to introspect and determine where that behaviour stems from, then acknowledge the place it stems from is toxic, and start changing. Harder still to unlearn a habit I put 30+ years into learning.
I don't think I've ever heard "language changes over time and that's sexist and toxic" from anyone other than Latin teachers with no students
That's the thing really, I use "bro" gender neutrally all the time (though in a rare instance of treating transwomen differently I'll avoid it if I know someone is transfem, because that's just asking for misunderstandings). If anyone asked me to not refer to them that way I'll just say oh ok sorry I won't on the future, it's gender neutral to me I didn't mean to misgender you.
All of this, all the pronoun discussions, people insisting on deadnames, is the same as reading someones name on an ID, calling them that, and them telling you they don't like that name and please use a different name (even when it's just a nickname and nothing gender related). If you don't accept their preference, you're just an asshole. You don't need to walk on eggshells, you just need to do a bare minimum of thinking and most importantly listen to people.
"I'm a dude, he's a dude, she's a dude, we're all dudes. Hey!" - "We're all dudes" from Good Burger.
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When Dude is directed AT someone ("Hey, Dude!"), it's definitely gender neutral. And when using it at the beginning of the sentence, it's just an exclamation like Damn, Shit, or God ("Dude, that was crazy").
But words change meaning slowly and its use in the way you describe is indeed still gendered. Guy is the same way albeit much further behind.
I stand by that dude is gender neutral if for no other reason than to reclaim it as such. It's a great word that's fun to say. So from one male dude to every non-male dude, get in on these fun linguistics! Dude is gender neutral if you say it is.
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As someone who has spent half their life in California, this is accurate.
I'm a dude, he's a dude, she's a dude, we're all dudes!
Way to (carbon) date yourself, it's "bruh" for the fellow kids now π§βπ¦³
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Dude...duder...or duderino, if your not into the whole brevity thing
What I'm getting out of this conversation is that language requires context. Dude can be used gender neutral, but it depends on context and people's beliefs. When used as a greeting it's gender neutral, but there are cases where it's not.
Meh, I prefer buddy, friend(s), folks, comrade(s) or asshat(s) depending on the context.
Dude is universal no matter the context though. Also, if you only have dude saved in your volcabulary it frees up space in your brain for more facts. Such as, for every snake there is one snake penis.
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What??! Thereβs no βdudetteβ? π± My whole life has been a lie.
Dudette is a subtype of dude not a distinct category.
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Dude is fairly gendered. "mate" on the other hand...
When I'm drunk, we're all dude.
And bro too. In gamer world, we're all bros.
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