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[–] infuziSporg@hexbear.net 2 points 48 minutes ago

mmmmmm pasta.

Choice anxiety is a real scourge, I dealt with it a lot in my late teens and early 20s.

Take the opportunities that you come across, as long as it's anything that you don't find absolutely detestable. It's okay to be uncomfortable, it's okay to be new to something. Follow your whims, but logically: reason through it a little and talk to other people about it before escalating a commitment.

Discover the world by taking part in it on the ground level, and build your familiarity and orientation from where you find yourself, instead of immediately trying to jump to a rung on the career ladder that you'll never see the base/anchoring to. I found this immensely more satisfying and validating than trying to fetishize myself as a such-and-such worker, when I didn't even know what I wanted such-and-such to be, and was overwhelmed by the thousands of options I had.

As long as you do it prudently enough, you can always go back on a choice that you end up not liking. If a job or an organization or even an activity doesn't seem to click with you after a few months, ditch it and move on. Same with people you meet. It's okay to say no if no is what your gut is telling you.

There are no win conditions; it's a sandbox. There is no destiny, there are just lots of paths that can help you paint the picture of your life. You will likely find that these converge into the plot of historical class struggle.

Do things that you actually enjoy and are drawn to, rather than things you're not enjoying but feel you should. I wish someone had given me this advice 25 years ago.

[–] jack@hexbear.net 7 points 12 hours ago (1 children)
[–] opiumfree@hexbear.net 5 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

i wish but the US destroyed the communist party in my country

[–] RedWizard@hexbear.net 1 points 8 hours ago

Join an illegal underground communist party.

[–] WhatDoYouMeanPodcast@hexbear.net 9 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

Whatever you do, don't take advice from me.

But also the choices are rarely as permanent and personal as they appear. The person you are can easily shine through them. So don't let any of the glorified-psuedorandom rougelike elements sour your outlook for the world. Gloomy pessimism will only hurt the people who matter and stick around because all the losers and jokers you don't align with are going to find their way out of your life anyway; you'll never have to care what they think about you or otherwise.

If I were you I'd iterate quickly over things I find interesting (hoping I left high school with a good base of things that are plausibly interesting) knowing there's an 80% chance of it not being it but if I'm inexplicably drawn to something over and over or very deeply immediately going all in on it.

The goal being that I'm surrounded by people who I'm connected to deeply doing something I truly like doing watching each other grow old while laughing.

If you're like me you'll spend over a decade wrestling with "well, what do you want?" to the point where it'll surprise and complicate you when it actually shows up.

[–] transbyanism@hexbear.net 3 points 15 hours ago

Felt like you, went to uni, then had to drop out because it was just abusive in my case and I hadnt recovered from highschool pressure, and now I have a lot of brainworms and trauma from that. At least here, universities suck lol, but maybe it was also my bad luck

[–] Dessa@hexbear.net 1 points 12 hours ago

Bolognese tastes like Hamburger Helper to me

[–] Acute_Engles@hexbear.net 3 points 15 hours ago

You get used to it

[–] splendidsadiks@hexbear.net 4 points 17 hours ago (2 children)

The sauce could stick to the noodles a bit more

[–] opiumfree@hexbear.net 3 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

i bought these premade from the grocery store so i am not offended

[–] splendidsadiks@hexbear.net 1 points 3 hours ago

Probably worst food poisoning I ever got was some kroger chicken alfredo be safe

[–] SwagliacciTheBadClown@hexbear.net 4 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

It could also stick less though. Maybe at this early point in OPs life the key is to learn contentment 🧘

[–] splendidsadiks@hexbear.net 2 points 3 hours ago

Noodles are a sore spot for me