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So I'm really starting to wonder if I have autism, and I think you might see why.
Is there anything (book, youtube video, anything) on like... social norms for women/trans women? I have spent my entire life analyzing how I need to act as a guy and now I'm really struggling to understand where the boundaries are and what's expected of me. Some examples:
talking about genitals
I didn't know some no op trans women would want their genitals referred to as a clit, and that didn't even enter my mind as an option. What if I had said/done something that upset someone? (I call it a penis, she tries to correct me, and I don't understand and think too literally about it.) And like, if you're going to say "oh well how would you feel about someone doing X thing" this would never have come to my thought process. I never would have considered someone calling my penis anything else? Why would I be upset by that? And apparently a penis is different then a dick/cock? Its confusing and I don't want there to be more out there like this where I end up upsetting someoneCan I say I have a stupid girl brain in a jokey kind of way? I feel like I've heard some people say that about themselves, but I also feel like maybe people would see that negatively.
Literally what is up with calling people girls vs women. I am so confused
And like... expectations and how people will perceive me. I just don't understand and keep thinking but getting no where
This post fucks
I think it's rad.
You should read Gender Outlaw and then the Gender Accelerationist Manifesto to discover that gender is fuckin fake shit. I found I stressed a lot less about this stuff after my brain got reprogrammed by funny gender theory.
The label stuff, I mean "Why would I be upset by that?" You just read Fucking Trans Women right? Before I read that I hadn't considered this either, but people will use all kinds of labels for any part of themselves if it makes em feel good. A lot of the time the usual terms for assigned-male anatomy are very fucking associated with "man". Still my favourite Transfemme® Genital™ Label is "aubergine", I snorted.
As for the other stuff... I am The Autistic and I really relate to your utter bewilderment at the social/gender stuff, very real. Did you know that allegedly [citation needed] [sometimes] nodding your head at someone is a masc-gendered action???? Whereas I guess a small wave would be the femme move??? Expectations and perception of gender shit are so goddamn confusing as someone with autism. I have heard that many autistic people end up agender or sometimes none biney =)
I've always seen the "woman" vs "girl" thing as being a maturity marker, and sometimes dudes get misogynistic with it? But none of it makes any sense really. I try not to stress about it.
So uh how's the autism dx goin'?
Why can’t nuerotypicals see through the bullshit. I guess like ADHDers seeing through capitalism. Neurotypicals are silly. Being molded by society (Ik we’re all made by our material conditions).
Neurotypicals are FUCKIN silly!!! We are all the product of our material conditions, but that doesn't mean we are subservient to them the way neuronormos are =)