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They only think that because they hate hearing what unapologetically honest people have to say about them.
Like, if you're at someone's house for dinner and their cooking is terrible, you should tell them so they can learn how to cook better. They're gonna be upset though.
Edit: Man... I didn't realize so many people here can't cook. 😔
At least you won't have the problem of being invited for dinner anymore
Is that really the point in that moment though? They didn't invite you so you could teach them how to cook, but to spend time with you and have friendly conversations. Saying that would really only serve to ruin the day for them, and possibly for yourself as well depending on how they'll react.
I think the way you say it can make a difference. Don't be harsh. Be polite and constructive. And yes, say it at an appropriate time as well.
I completely agree... but.. Isn't that exactly what a filter is though?
You might be right. So it might be necessary to have a "filter" to some extent in society. Otherwise, you'd have a bad time.
I think that sounds fair.
It might not be illegal to not have a filter, but if your lack of filter makes you unpleasant to be around, then others might not want to be around you.
No. IF they ask, and you know they are really asking, sure. Or if usually they are an awesome cook, and you are also an awesome cook, and this meal is bad, they already know, so sure, especially if you have actual advice to give. But if someone gives you a meal they are enjoying and you don't like it, I don't think a critique is appropriate, and particularly if the critique is just "man, you suck at cooking." Generally speaking, if someone makes you a meal there is only one correct response and it's "thank you." No don't praise the food if you think it sucks but just say thanks.