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This is a well known experience for both men and women. There are many reddit threads about this as well.
Almost every human will treat someone sexually appealing much, much better. And for women, it's mostly about being thin, and for men, having a bit of muscles, being tall and having a confident personality.
Both men and women, but specially women, notice how they start to feel invisible in society in their 40s or 50s because they lose their attractive surface. People treat them very differently when they do.
If you have never been very attractive, it's not a big difference, but if you were, it's a massive difference. It's so big and noticable that it can cause depression.
But it's not in every culture. Eastern cultures are not as bad.
I know for at least China, Indonesia, Singapore and especially South Korea that being even a smidge above their idea of normal weight can get you completely shunned from society, and body ideals are quite strict among Japanese celebrities as well, far more than here.
So in which Eastern cultures is this not as bad?
Tough luck, my fellow men. We need to work more on everything, not just plain lifting.
Well we are also stronger and more capable. Specially if humanity hits hard times, it's going to be men who gets us out of it. By sheer force if needed.
Be proud to be a man. Men built the entire world around us. Water, electricity, piping, housing... Everything.
While I applaud the general sentiment... yeah, be proud of what you are, but come on. Basically all non-rich women work, too, and often longer and with less respect than men.
And before you bring out the "but construction workers" argument: Look into a hospital, nursing home, or just any random family home, and tell me that it's majorily men doing the clearly very important and exhausting work...
Besides, it's this attitude that holds us back. Yeah, the average man is stronger than the average woman, but how many % of jobs require full physical strength? The only plausible reason many girls are interested in tech and stuff, yet many women don't pursue a career in there is societal pressure.
Shit's fucked for everyone, let's not have a self pity competition, but work to make it less shitty for everyone.
No i just meant what I wrote, nothing else. Men built the world around us. The heavy infrastructure work for society to work. The stuff that makes women able to work in hospitals now because water, power, sewage, ventilation is working.
Today strength matters less but I think men should be proud to be men, just because they built all that stuff. And also because physically strong is needed for protection. Women are not going to protect themselves against other men.
Its just how it is. I don't see a problem with that. I think men are awesome. I feel good about being a man, for real.
You completely missed my point, I'm sorry. Yes, I feel good being a manly man. Yes, if that is what you are and want to be, you deserve to feel good as well.
I have worked with some breaks since high school, including a handful ofnodd summer jobs in construction, and I have not had a single job that a reasonably fit woman could not do as well.
Plus, nowadays there are plenty of women in trades and industry. Sadly, mostly in "womanly" stuff like gardening/landscaping, which again to me shows that this is not a physical issue, but a societal / psychological one.
Besides, why should I be proud of a random construction worker breaking his back 100 years ago? That's like saying I am proud of being born in the same city as some famous poet. Not my achievement, not even my era. Yeah, Albert Einstein once visited the college I went to, do I get to be proud?
And physical strength has not really been the dominant factor for serious protection in a long time, at least not in the military. A drone does nor care who steers it, and neither does a gun care who shoots it.
As I said, it is not a fucking championship. Everyone deserves happiness, "I am proud because I am born male/female/white/black/straight/gay/..." just pisses me off. Do something good with your life, and be proud of that, for fucks sake.